Don’t Cancel 2020 Just Yet!

“THIS PANDEMIC RUINED MY TRAVEL PLANS. I WAS SUPPOSED TO START MY BUSINESS THIS YEAR. I CAN’T HAVE A REAL GRADUATION ANYMORE. I DIDN’T GET TO CHECK EVERYTHING OFF MY BUCKET LIST. THIS SUMMER IS A SHAM. COVID RUINED MY YEAR.”

**Disclaimer: I know people barely read nowadays or appreciate blogs anymore, so thank you to the few of you who are taking time to read this. I hope it is helpful and beneficial to your growth!**

These are all complaints I have heard throughout the months, all up to this very day. I am guilty of some, however I have realized that this year does not have to be a total “Cancelation“, well not just yet. You can take back control of 2020 and still WIN & SUCCEED during this world pandemic we are experiencing. Want to know how? Keep reading, I got you.

BEFORE READING PLEASE REMEMBER THAT THERE ARE STILL MORE WAYS FOR YOU TO REDEFINE AND TAKE BACK WHAT 2020 STOLE FROM YOU. KEEP IN MIND YOU HOLD THE KEYS TO THE REMAINING 4 MONTHS.

What can I do to take back control of 2020?

  1. Revisit your checklist or add to it.

Honestly this is better said than done, but it’s better when you’re actually doing it people. Revisiting your checklist can be beneficial because there are still some goals on your list worth completing. Example: I wanted to get back into school and complete my Master’s Degree, but I procrastinated and missed the deadline. Due to Covid-19/Pandemic Period my program was extended 3 months of ample time to apply. Guys, this is a program that is only offered in the Fall, so I would’ve had to wait a whole year to apply again. I mean, if this wasn’t a sign from God that good things can come from bad situations, I don’t know what was! Sometimes you have to just see the good in things even when it looks like it’s the end. So YES, when I advise you to revisit your goals and still check things off your list…I know what I’m talking about from experience!

2. Set daily, weekly, and monthly goals.

(1) Do you have a business or want to start a business?

(2) Do you have a blog or want to start one?

(3) Do you want to grow on your social media accounts?

(4) Do you want to build your relationship with God?

(5) Do you want to start saving towards your future?

(6) Do you want to start a new job? A new school venture?

(7) Do you want to move into a new home or buy a home?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you may want to read this section. Okay y’all, setting reminders and making schedules can be time consuming and dreary, trust me I know! I’ve tried and gave up sometimes, but honestly it’s a step into the right direction. I know that planning efficiently produces the best outcomes, that is why I suggest you plan and jot down your daily, weekly and monthly goals. Whether it’s if you want to have 10 more followers by next month or $100 more dollars added to your savings account, set the goals and make it come to fruition.

Plan it out and watch it come into fruition!

-MJ

3. Do more of what brings your heart peace, joy and happiness.

What brings you absolute joy? I mean what makes you feel good inside when you do it, see it, or create it? Ask yourself this question and dwell on your response for a minute.

Take a minute.

Okay, I hope you were able to answer those two questions. With everything being on a somewhat standstill, this is really the time to just go for whatever it is you been wanting to try without thinking twice about it. You love creating things, do it. Turn it into a business. You love learning? Amazing, go get your education. You love writing? Cool, start a blog or write a book. Start at it. You have a talent you been hiding? Share it with the world. Create your own platform where your viewers can enjoy it. The possibilities are endless.

PRO TIP: GO FOR IT AND DO NOT TURN BACK. WE ARE TOO AFRAID OF BEING CRITIQUED OR BEING TOLD NO SOMETIMES. THE TIME IS NOW TO JUST GET OUT THERE (NOT LITERALLY OBVIOUSLY) BUT GET OUT THERE AND DO THAT THING YOU WANTED TO ALWAYS DO!

I really hope you take the leap in making your dreams come true, live better and goals checked off. Don’t beat yourself up, you got this! Thank you for reading. xoxo MJ.

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Listen To God.

Hello my lovelies! Welcome back to #KUWMJ blog.

This year is a living testimony of “God is in control”. This pandemic has been going strong for months and yet still we still have no way of figuring out what’s next. Honestly, I have up trying. This year I promised myself that I would be intentional in everything that I do, create and put out into the world. With that being said, I purposely wanted to kill two birds with one stone in this post by shedding light on what it really means/take to listen to God and to highlight my tee shirt which was made by someone who is also intentional on making sure he spreads the message to you to “listen to God.

Listen To God?

To some it is gibberish to even say the words, more less believe them. To me, listening to God is more than thinking he said to do something and doing it. It means to be fully open to hearing and not at all times understanding what he’s telling you to do and just doing it without doubt. As I grow in years, I know now that the only way to hear God or know what he wants/expects of us is by reading the Bible, devotion, prayer and a relationship with him. If you’re not doing any of these, you won’t know what God wants of you. 

If God is always listening to us, why is it so hard for us to do the same for him in return? (I’m speaking to myself as well). It sometimes feel like we have all the time in the world to do the right thing or get our lives together, but in actuality we have ZERO TIME. Lives are lost everyday my loves. Are you willing to leave this world without being right with God?

I’ve put together some ways that we can all practice listening to God:

  • Keep a prayer journal- I had one of these and somehow neglected it. The benefits of it is to keep track of what you’ve prayed for and to see what God has already done for you.
  • Read your bible- This is non-negotiable if you’re serious.
  • Have a daily devotional
  • Ask God questions and wait for an answer- Sometimes God answers our prayers through other people. He also shows himself through different situations in our lives. PAY ATTENTION.

These are steps to take to grow your relationship with God, which in return strengthens the bond to the point where you’ll be able to listen when He speaks to you. I hope this post was helpful.

Be sure to check out @AntidoteMusiq on instagram to shop his “Listen To God” clothing! I love his message and his drive. Keep spreading positivity sir & I will always support your business!

Skirt: H&M | Sneakers: Nike

Hat: @ShopStCole on Instagram

If you have any questions or comments, be sure to leave one below! Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

Is Growth Easily Obtainable?

Can you believe it’s May 2020 already? Time is indeed flying.

In today’s post I wanted to discuss a bit on the subject of growth. To me it’s a topic I’ll always be talking about because it’s something we can never stop doing (by choice you can). When I sit in my quiet space to write and fully reevaluate everything that is going on or I have been through, I think of the word growth every time. How did I grow from my past situation? Am I growing or am I stagnant in my ways? Am I practicing to have a growth mindset? These are just a few questions that comes to mind. Maybe you should ask yourself these questions also.

Is Growth Easily Obtainable?

I’m asking for a friend… No seriously, is growth easily obtainable? In my honest opinion, the answer is yes. The answer is yes, but there are some factors that comes with it. If you want to grow, it won’t happen overnight. Think about it, a plant doesn’t just grow in a day. Sometimes it takes a plant weeks before it sprouts out from beneath the dirt and months even to produce a new leaf. Growth is not something that is to be rushed. It happens overtime and when we take the steps to allow it, “growth” to sprout, it’s a beautiful thing.

3 Things About Growth You Do Not Want To Accept

  1. It happens when you least expect it.
  2. It may cause you to lose a friend or two…or ALL.
  3. It may not make you happy…during the process!

How you can obtain growth is to let it happen gradually. This is probably the only process we can just allow to do its thing in our life. That’s easier said than done because 99% of the time we want to see results FAST. I think that’s a normal human tendancy, however it’s not a good one to practice. Just as it is inevitable to stop the sun from rising and setting each day, it’s the same way it is inevitable for us to control our growth process. Controlling and obtaining, two different words. Don’t confuse them! We cannot control our growth, but we can obtain it.

How Can I Obtain Growth?

Ask yourself the question, “How can I obtain growth?”. That’s the first step in actually growing; when you seek help, knowledge or information. Next is figuring out some ways that will help you reach your goal, aka whatever area you are trying to grow or exceed in. For example, if you are trying to stop lying, you must first think of ways you can do that. How can I stop lying? Maybe I can tell the person what I am feeling in the moment as to why I lie. Or maybe you can figure out the exact reason you would rather lie than just tell the truth. It can be because of fear of losing something or someone, or it is just something you became accustom to. Was that clear? I hope so.

We grow when we accept things for what it is and try to do better. We grow when we understand that everything happens for a reason and sometimes that reason is there to benefit us. We grow when we take the initiative to be better people in general, not just for ourselves but for a wider audience. We grow when we allow God to take control of our lives.

Incorporating a growth mindset sets you apart from everyone else. It shows that you are willing and open to the betterment of your life. People who practice having a growth mindset embraces the challenges that come before them. They learn from their past and also from the criticism of others. They get inspired and jump for joy at the hands of success from others. This is what we must practice today.

So again I ask, is growth easily obtainable? Yes. Take the steps to grow better, glow better and flow better.

The steps are:

  • Seek help or information
  • Have a growth mindset, bring your thinking to a new level of where you want to be
  • Reflect + Understand what you may have done to get to that point
  • Make a plan/solution for exactly how you’re going to get there (wherever you want to be)

Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

4 Years Later, Still Blogging.

Four years ago I started blogging and as I sit here and reflect on all I have learned, overcame, and accomplished I can only smile. By no means whatsoever do I consider myself to have reached the ‘ultimate blogger status’, because I am still learning new ways to grow and connect with my blog followers. If you are interested in becoming a blogger, I wrote a blog post with some tips to help you decide if it’s for you and what steps you should take first! The link to that post is right here: 5 Tips For Becoming A Blogger. I think every year I add under my belt one thing remains constant, and that thing I’m referring to is consistency. People will support you, but when they see that you are actually staying consistent in what you said you were going to do/or accomplish, it maes them more excited and intrigued to see what you have to offer.

It’s very easy to drown in this blogger/influencer pool. What I mean by that is, sometimes you feel like you are not putting out enough when you see bloggers with 10K followers and numerous partnerships with big time name brands. You begin to question what you’re doing wrong. That was my biggest downfall. I knew I could not belittle what I bring to the table by comparing my content with the bigger, more exposed bloggers. What I grew to understand was that everyone has a story of their journey and everyone has a time to shine. When I understood that, I began to flourish. Growing in numbers is not always gold, but growing and connecting is the GOAL. Recognizing that people love my content because they truly just knew my worth, allows me to reach that goal daily with no worries at all.

Honestly, four years went by so fast. I feel like I just launched my first blog post the other day. For those of you who want to know some things I advice from my own experience over the last 4 years, here they are:

  • Don’t be afraid to reach out the brands you absolutely love
  • Don’t let the number of followers you have determine your worth
  • Finding a niche is overrated, you can flourish and thrive in all the areas you love
  • Create content that sticks
  • Create content that is helpful
  • Create content that you know a lot of information on and it will benefit your audience
  • STEP OUT YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Here’s a list of blog posts I’ve created that can be helpful:

Some blogging tools I’ve been using:

  • Canva
  • UNUM
  • Lightroom
  • Instagram Analytics
  • Pinterest Analytics

I grew to know that it is important to look at your analytics to see your stats on whether your post did good, what time people are on to look at your posts, are they interacting and so on. I will definitely be doing another blog post where I discuss these things more in-depth with you guys.

Why am I still blogging?

Just in case you were wondering… I’m still blogging because I love it. It’s my platform, my space to create and share what I have to offer you. My goal this year is to become more engaged with my audience and reach more people from my platforms. One reason I started my youtube channel was to do just that. Reaching a bigger and different audience helps me get myself more out there. It is never easy starting on a new platform, out of your comfort zone, but what I have learned is that taking that leap is the scariest part. Everything after that is BETTER. If you have not checked out my youtube channel and subscribed, I encourage you to do so! I’m aiming to reach 500 subscribes before APRIL is over. Support me!

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As always, thank you for following me on my journey as a blogger. I hope this post was helpful and thanks so much for stopping by! See you on the next post! XO MJ!

How To Stay Productive At Home.

Hi, my loves! How are you doing? As you know, I’m quarantined and I’m pretty sure you are too so by the title of this post you know what to expect. It is only day 3 and I had to get my life together and really figure out some ways to keep abreast it all. Things are definitely not normal, so in order to keep some normality in the air, I put together this post as a means of help for you guys and myself!

We all know to stay home is a dream come true, wake up when you want and some have the luxury to work from home. However, when you have no other choice but to stay home for your own safety it can get a bit frustrating.

I HAVE PUT TOGETHER A COUPLE WAYS YOU CAN STAY PRODUCTIVE AND BUSY WHILE STAYING AT HOME.

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  1. Make a schedule for yourself (and your kids/other families you take care of). Having a schedule can help you stay on track and it helps with holding yourself accountable for what you should be doing or should have done already.
  2. Make a list of things you need to complete. This one can be a bit flexible. Do you have work, like actually work to complete? If so, jot down what exactly needs to get done on that list. If you’re a blogger like me or a vlogger, making a list of what content you want to create fr the week (and weeks ahead) can be helpful and keep your audience still intact and in tune with what you have to offer. If you’re married or take care of someone at home, making a list of things that need to get done around the house can also take a weight off your shoulders and keep you organized.
  3. Make sure to keep your house clean. Everything just flows better when the home is clean, the sunlight shining in and it smells good. This didn’t have to be on the list, but as a bonus, someone may have needed to read that. Cleanliness is important for a clearer mind and a clearer space.
  4. Stay connected, virtually of course. I know, social distancing is full-effect, however, that doesn’t mean the phone does not work anymore. Call that friend you been meaning to call or family members and see how they are doing.
  5. Do something fun that you enjoy doing. Okay, this one has parts. Here are some things you can do. Some may be suitable more during this quarantine time, but all still work out.
  • Write in your journal (Think about some things you lost sight of, write down new ideas you may have, feelings, thoughts, just express yourself
  • Listen to music
  • Read a book that you love
  • Binge watch a tv show/watch a movie
  • Play board games
  • Play a puzzle game
  • Play a trivia game
  • Plan a movie night with your significant other/or family
  • Reorganize your room (any room you like)
  • Declutter your laptop (photos, videos, etc.)
  • Declutter your phone
  • Declutter your closet
  • Make a video (loosen up a bit)
  • Take a walk
  • Watch your favorite youtube videos (subscribe to my channel)
  • Check out your favorite bloggers’ website or vlogs

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6. TAKE A SELFCARE DAY

This includes taking the time to do something that brings you a bit of joy. Especially in a time of ‘panic’ like this, self-care activities can be helpful.

  • Give yourself a mini-pedi
  • Do some yoga or meditate
  • Read your favorite book
  • Eat your favorite comfort foods
  • Dress up (yes dress up if you want to)
  • Make some fun videos and post it
  • Relax, have a spa day at home (bubble baths)
  • Arts and craft

All of these and more can be super helpful in getting by at home during this quarantine. What are some other productive ways that may be helpful? List them in the comments.

Outfit details:

Jeans: Levi’s | Mules: Last season Zara mules or you can try Nordstrom | Basic cropped white tee: Uniqlo | Blazer: Husbae’s closet | Phone case bag: Urban Outfitters

Thanks for stopping by guys! XO MJ!

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10 Reasons To Step Out Your Comfort Zone + Youtube Channel Launch.

This year I’m stepping out of comfort zones and going for IT. Period.

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Your comfort zone is a leech, sucking you dry and leaving you for dead.

READ TO THE END!

It can get tricky to know when you should step out of your comfort zone, but that is all the reason why you should do it NOW.

Keeping It Real, it is not easy to step out of our comfort zones. The phrase itself has “comfort” in it and that is something we human beings adore! We love to have it our way,  the way we want it, when we want it without having to give too much energy. Sounds a bit lazy right? Reread that. I bet you will agree.

Let’s dig a bit deeper though, in terms of our life dreams, goals and aspirations we are sometimes forced to make the changes and put in the work in order to get where we need to be (unless you’re privileged and don’t have to work for anything). That requires us to do things outside of the box so we can 1.) Stand out and 2.) Prove that we are worth it, knowledgeable, hardworking and deserving of(you fill in that blank).

In my opinion, stepping out of your comfort zone can be a hit or miss, either one you have to give it up for yourself because you went for it! You tried. You put yourself out there. You did something that was uncomfortable. You conquered a fear. You decided to consciously make the decision to not settle and that is enough reason for you to clap it up for yourself.

10 Reasons To Step Out Your Comfort Zone This Year

  1. No one is really going to point at you and laugh if you fail.
  2. People are rooting for you.
  3. You will feel so much more relief and content knowing you went for it and it wasn’t that bad vs not doing anything at all.
  4. People are scared to do what you are doing & they admire you even if they do not say it.
  5. Just like forgiving someone is healing for yourself, so is stepping out of your comfort zone. It’s an anxiety breaker!
  6. You will become stronger each time and 10x more ready for whatever may come in your way.
  7. You will grow to understand that failure is PART OF THE PROCESS TO GREATNESS.
  8. Stepping out of the box will only benefit you and your creativity.
  9. You get more exposure to things and people would be able to see what you’ve been holding in.
  10. The chains of stagnancy are broken.

I STARTED A YOUTUBE CHANNEL

My youtube channel is about going to cover the majority of the same things my blog covers, with a different spin on it! I want to expand and reach a new audience with my channel while doing things I enjoy doing. I love creating content for lifestyle, fashion, beauty- glossier, and I’ll be adding bits and pieces of my life! I’ll really appreciate it if you guys can go subscribe to my channel & watch my video! SUBSCRIBE HERE!  You won’t regret it. I promise.

Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

How To Acquire A Well-Balanced Life.

Happy month 3 of 2020! Are you looking to acquire some balance in your life? If so, keep reading for some helpful tips, incite and lessons I have learned over time.

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As a college graduate (2017/2018 grad), newlywed (2019) and an adult striving to obtain a career and life goals, it has been hectic. With the bubbly feels of accomplishment, a huge significant life-changing move, years piling up on each other every birthday, responsibilities multiplying and aspirations/goals so aggressively needed to be tended to, I have been loaded with a heap of emotions. Recently I asked myself, am I living a well-balanced life?, and after being in deep thought here is what I figured out.

All the events came at me fast and I was feeling excited, pumped and striving to be my best while doing it all and doing it well. What I thought as ‘holding myself accountable’, was me getting everything done routinely.

What I pictured as a well-balanced life was not what I was living. I began to dread doing the things I once was excited about doing. At times, we as human beings often mix our dreams with reality and believe that when we become adults we would automatically just have it all together and figured out. And boom“A happily ever after”, the end, book closed. Wrong. As a matter of fact, book open…it’s on to the next chapter! Surprising as it is, that idea of a balanced life as an adult for most of us still do not exist because we haven’t let ourselves accept it does not exist. Although that version does not exist, it does not mean a well-balanced life is nonexistent. 

I remember one month in my new apartment I started to freak out. There were boxes everywhere so I could barely find my stuff, I just did groceries, the house needed to be cleaned, bills needed to be sorted out, clothes needed to be unpacked, and I still was getting back into my work routine, it was A LOT! I felt like I did not know what I was doing. Everyone kept asking me “how’s married life” left, right and center. It was a bit chaotic. Chaotic and my life does not go well together. If you know me, you know that I live for organization + structure, but it was challenging. So much for being ‘balanced’.

Fighting for more balance can make you exhausted.

A Well Balanced Life Does Not Equate To Your Successes

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From my experience, I can say I let my expectancy of what I thought a well-balanced life was supposed to look like, dictate what I was doing on day-to-day. Big mistake. Having to manage my daily work + home schedule, clean, cook, as well as maintain a social life, blog life, study life and all the other miscellaneous things I love required balance. If you saw me on the street you would think that I had my life all figured out. I thought that if I could do all these things, it made me a success and I was killing it. 

You can’t be overworked and happy. It does not exist because something will not add up correctly. 

I crave structure and organization. I decided that recently that in order to accomplish my goals I needed to do things differently. This involved me making time for other things that were truly important to me, while also getting things done in my home.

What is a well-balanced life you ask?

Having a well-balanced life is not about doing it all and doing it well. It’s about doing what is important and right for you, at a timely pace. It means that you do what is best for you, no hold-backs. It means that you can handle various elements in your life and do not feel like you are going to hit rock bottom or your heart will explode. 

Some helpful tips to help you stay calm and acquire a well-balanced life:

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  • Simplify your lifestyle.
  • Nurture yourself.
  • Keep healthy: emotionally, physically, spiritually.
  • Do what is important to you.
  • GWTF (Go with the flow).
  • Stay Afloat and Grounded (writing lists, jotting down helpful tips can be a huge help).
  • Take it one step at a time.
  • Expect the unexpected sometimes.

As life changes our priorities change as well and that is okay. We may still struggle with the expectancy of things, sometimes by looking at how someone else did something. That is normal, but do not get into the habit of comparison. That is the number one leading cause of “messing up your mind”. I’m learning every day how to do what is important to me regularly. My well-balanced life comes only when I figure out what works best for me and this new life I’m venturing with my husbae. Trying to do it all and be a superwoman is not what I strive to be at all, however, doing what’s best for both of us might make me well-grounded and that is a goal.

A necessity for a well-balanced life

Last but not certainly least, a well-balanced life would be nothing without God. Make sure God is always at the forefront of everything you do. That’s number one on the list! God not only completes us but he wants us to live a life that is pleasing to him, which includes love, health, structure, and order. 

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I hope this post was helpful. Be sure to subscribe to receive an email whenever I post! How do you stay well balanced? Answer in the comments.

Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

6 Ways To Fight Writer’s Block.

Writers’ block can be a pain. It can make us writers feel like we are incompetent, lesser, and like we are losing the one thing that should just flow…words. I have been a victim of writer’s block many many times, so I have accumulated some helpful tips to help you push through writer’s block. If you’ve been faced with this problem, this post is for you!

My most favorite place to write is on my bed under my comfy comforter. Sometimes I enjoy having the window open to have some sunlight in or some soft music that will calm my mind and help my thoughts to just easily flow to my fingertips. This is not always 100% successful because distractions occur. 

HERE ARE 6 TIPS TO FIGHT WRITERS BLOCK:

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1. Turn your phone on do not disturb (or completely off).

We know ourselves enough to know that there will always be that one notification that we’ll keep checking and that one text message we have to answer. If you want to get serious brain juice flowing, it’s a must to turn the phone off or set it aside. You owe it to yourself to have a peaceful space to write without anyone bugging you. 

2. Make it something you do on a regular basis.

Practice makes perfect, agree or disagree? We hear this saying so often, but never actually do it. 9 times out of 10, if you actually write every day, it will become easier and writer’s block would not take a toll on your mind. The greatest writers didn’t just wake up and boom they became great. You have to make your writing a priority. Read, gain knowledge, find inspiration outside and just write what you feel. Give yourself a daily time that can encourage yourself to write each day. Incorporating writing prompts can also help.

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3. Get inspired, stay inspired, be the inspiration.

Easy. Read more. 

Train signs or posters. Wall art. Newspapers. Read a thesaurus or dictionary and learn new ways to say things differently. 

Visit museums. Take walks in the park. Sit under the sun. Take coffee shop visits. All these are ways to get inspired and stay inspired daily. Try it.

4. Find more ways to keep your readers/audience interested in your writing.

Are you changing your writing style? Are you still interesting to your audience? Are they even reading your work? These are all questions I have asked myself while having writer’s block and the only way to obtain an answer is to reach out to your readers.

Ask questions.

Engage with polls.

Ask their opinions.

See what they like or are interested in.

Give advice, but also receive it too.

The ball is in your court as the writer, but the court is actually your audience. Don’t get carried away.

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5. Crush your to-do lists first.

You can’t peacefully write knowing that you haven’t completely crossed out everything on your to-do list. It takes focus and dedication to write something worth your readers’ time and yours. So the best thing to do is get it all done before you sit in your quiet place to write. Your creative juices will flow way better after, trust me.

6. Set a specific time for writing.

Take the time to write.

No exceptions.

Let your mind do the talking and your fingers do the writing.

Use a pen + paper. A book. A journal. Leave the computer/laptop alone sometimes.

++I hope this post was helpful. Have a beautiful day. XO MJ.

Celebrate Love With Glossier You.

As the world goes crazy over “Valentine’s Day” every year, I usually think back to how that day came about. I’m not going to go over the nitty-gritty of it all, but I’m here to say let’s change the narrative! I mean… that’s how “Galentine’s Day” came about and that’s been the best fake holiday ever since! Instead of gushing over your other half, just celebrate love with your close family and friends, so that no one feels left out!

Today’s post is about the Glossier You, which is glossier’s one and only perfume. It has a nice, light scent that’s not too girly and feminine. This scent was made for people who like their scents to last throughout the day! If you watched previous videos I’ve made about glossier you would have seen the glossier you solid, the small compact perfume in a small case that glossier use to sell. It’s now out of commission. As sad as that is, at least we have the glossier you to still bask in!

The perfect gift set.

The Glossier You come with a special set now that is perfect for every girl on the go. It comes with the Pro Tip (eyeliner that is very precise and easy to use) and the Clear Lip Gloss (Yes I know I have the red pictured here, but you should definitely invest in both if you’re a gloss girl like me!). The cost for the set of 3 is $75 and the Glossier You by itself is $60. Yes it is a bit pricey, but it is worth the buy. And a tip for when you do get yours, use it sparingly! One spray can go a long way.

You can get this set for a loved one, family member, friend, girlfriend, aunt, sister or yourself. Give a little, get a little! Don’t forget to use my link for 10% off your purchase!CLICK HERE.

Thanks for stopping by! XOXO MJ. Remember to celebrate love every single day, not just one day!

2020: Be Intentional.

Hey loves! Happy New Year! It’s finally 2020 and I have already had so many blessings poured my way. This year I am claiming the 3 P’s:

Peace, Prosperity & Patience.

As a person who have had highs and lows throughout her life, this year I’m choosing to not let it get in the way of my greatness. It’s okay to fail, but make sure you keep trying. Someone once told me that failure is part of the process and part of the bigger picture. It was hard at first to accept that, but as time has progressed I have implemented into my daily life. This year is the year of being 100% intentional in every aspect of life. Work, school, marriage, friendship, careers, aspirations, goals and dreams. Nothing is too big or too small.

Questions to ask yourself:
How can you be intentional this year?
What can you do differently this year than you did last year?
How can you leave your legacy in this world?
What do you want to accomplish?

Coming to the blog this year…

  • Brand collaborations– I promise to never work with a brand I’m not proud of or love.
  • Quotes, affirmations and scriptures to keep you motivated
  • Wedding content– As a newlywed I still have a lot to share with upcoming brides and I also have some photos and video content for you guys to see!
  • More video content!
  • How to’s and style tips
  • Beauty content– As you all know I’m a glossier rep, so more recommendations, videos, and my favorite products + other makeup brands.
  • Journaling
  • Start of a dream of mine, a book!

I hope you are subscribed to my blog to keep up with all the things I have in store for you this year! Thanks so much for stopping by! XO MJ.

 

Queen And Slim.

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I will keep embracing, keep holding, keep loving, and keep rooting for black love. Our stories deserve to be broadcasted, cherished and loved.

Last night I saw the film Queen And Slim. I had to write a blog post.

This movie taught me a few lessons, as a matter of fact, it reiterated what it means to be a black human being in a corrupt society.

This is so unlike me, writing about films I’ve watched, but this one is necessary.

Queen and slim is an important film. It’s kind of like a superhero movie, where you’re rooting for your favorite characters to win in the end like a fairytale, but then they don’t and you’re livid. This film was meant to make you livid. It was meant to open your eyes to what’s really going on in this world. It wasn’t meant to have a happy ever after, no matter how hard we were praying for one because like Issa said, we’re rooting for everybody black, and I definitely was. Call it bias if you want.

Lena Waithe (the genius behind this film) said, “My job is to make art that makes you think, and makes you question things. And I hope that’s what we did.” –Yep, she definitely nailed it with this one!

Love, anger, sacrifice, new experiences, realness, pain, and death. How could a movie hit it on the nail so perfectly that it felt like real life? From the start to the end I was in tune and felt like it could be me and my husband this could have happened to. One event after another felt like a page ripped from a book of any black person living in the US. When people say black lives matter, don’t get offended. When someone takes the time to appreciate and celebrate a black life, don’t feel like your life is any less. When you see a black couple being celebrated, broadcasted, and well appreciated, don’t ignore it. That’s a rare sight in a blind world.

This film depicted what it feels like to let a woman lead, while the man follows. The importance of that in itself showed that the power dynamic was so adequate and flowed so smoothly. No question, no doubt, just plain ole “GWTF” (Going with the flow).

Another important lesson I got from this movie was the question, ‘when you die, what will be your legacy? How will people remember you?’. Think about it. This should be steady on our minds, our thoughts and shown throughout our lives. 

The end of the film…the death of Queen and Slim. At that moment, when they got out of the car and was heading to the helicopter I felt liberated. I was rooting for them the whole movie and finally, they were getting the fairytale ending. If I’m being completely honest, I felt it in my gut that it was “too good to be true”. I knew this film had a purpose, and that purpose was not going to just end so smoothly where they got away scot-free. Then Slim is being all romantic (because he knows it’s about to go down) promising that he would’ve kissed her and Queen asking if she could be his legacy…the white cop lets the bullet loose on her. Queen drops. Slim is left devastated. I am happy that he didn’t just leave her body on the floor. He cared and saw her worth all the way through to his death.

I cried. 

I expected them to die together, not Queen being shot first. That was the jaw-dropping part of the movie for me. I did not expect that the black man would be the one who set them up. Total plot twist. Another plot twist was the black boy shooting the black cop in the face. Sadly he didn’t know that shooting that black man in no way made him iconic, immortal or memorable (in a good way).

Initial feelings–disgust, betrayal, anger. 

Queen and slim, they are every black boy, girl, man, and woman. What would you do in that situation? Would you run or would you live out your last few days (or hours) like actually live…do things you’ve never done while trying to survive.

This is one of the greatest love stories of all time. What’s your legacy?

— Photo of Queen & Slim by @PhotoDre

20 Thoughts For 2020.

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DSC08872DSC08836IMG_2589.JPGDSC08843DSC08894.JPGGuys, guess what? 2020 is right around the corner. I mean, not literally but it’s a few weeks away, so I decided to share 20 thoughts for 2020 with you to get you ready for what’s ahead!

**Disclaimer: This post is a bit lengthy, but it is worth the read + dope photos ahead!

20 Thoughts For 2020
  • Keeping it real 2020 is a bit scary for me. Not because I’m thinking negatively or anything, but it’s scary because I am super anxious about what’s coming! Honestly, God has been blessing me thoroughly and keeping it all the way real…I am so happy right now. I finally feel like good things really came to me. I’ve always kept the faith and tried to walk the walk, but sometimes it got hard and I did lose faith for a second. Thankfully I found my way back to God and my faith grew and grew to where it is now. SO, my first thought and advice are this: Never lose your faith. Why? Because God always has a plan for our lives, even when we cannot fully see it.
  • Don’t stand in the way of your own blessings. Cliché as that may sound, it’s an actual fact. Many times we cause ourselves to lose out, all because we are afraid to give in. When I say “give in”, I’m referring to putting our all into something (whatever we may want or desire). Leave that mess in 2019. Actually leave that mess where it is now, start fresh today! Put in the work for your dreams now and stop putting it on the back burner. I’m speaking to myself in this one also!
  • Push yourself.
  • Stop complaining.
  • Stop comparing yourself. The grass is NOT GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE. Please ladies and gentlemen, this comparing your life, goals, accomplishments to other people has to end now. It will only lead you down a wormhole of darkness, bitterness, envy, and sadness. No one ever felt better from comparing themselves to anyone! Instead, be happy for that person or even ask them for help or assistance if possible. Elevate them and they will elevate/embrace YOU in return. Trust me, it’s God’s way and God’s way always wins.
  • Everything is FIGURE-OUT-ABLE.
  • Therapy is NOT the enemy. I’ve actually been thinking about going to therapy. I haven’t told anyone (other than my mom because she’s thinking of going too), but it may allow me to speak about things from my childhood that I may not have let go of. Honestly, not sure of it but I don’t think people should feel embarrassed for doing it. It’s a form of release and relief. With that being said, if you been thinking about it or have done it, let me know your thoughts in the comments!
  • Have that terrifying conversation you been dodging. I’m sorry, but dodging a serious, ‘need to be had’ convo ain’t the answer love. Put your big boy/or big girl underwear on and GET IT DONE.
  • Let go of loose ends. Period.
  • Stop feeling guilty for choosing YOU. Again… STOP FEELING GUILTY FOR CHOOSING YOU.
  • Dress to impress. This is an important thought I’m sharing because sometimes your outward appearance does matter. Do not believe the lies you been fed. Dress the part first, then make it your own!
  • Let God fight the battles for you. Some people are natural-born fighters (like me…shameless), but God tells us over and over that he wants to fight our battles for us. We are so stubborn sometimes, we neglect that voice in our heads that tells us to relax. Like an energizer bunny, we are ready to go always, but time to let that part of us go. It’s actually holding you back from growing into what God wants you to be. WOW, that one hit home for me!

For my ladies…

  • You are capable of love.
  • Stop pushing that guy who likes you away. This one speaks to a lot of you. You’re scared of being hurt or commitment issues or trust issues. Leave that in 2019. Give him a chance. Honestly, some guys suck I get it, but there are a faithful few who are actually genuine and true to their tongue! If you like him, give him a chance.
  • Stop giving it all away. You don’t have to give it up every time you ‘like’ a guy or because he’s fine! Guys may not say it out loud, but a little mystery, self-respect and ‘hard to get’ action does the trick. Actually, scratch that! Respect yourself enough to not give in on your feelings or wants, but act with your brain. When you love yourself, like God loves you…you move differently when it comes to relationships. You got to love and understand yourself completely before letting that person in (literally and figuratively). Just keeping it REAL!

For my gentlemen…

  • Be gentle! I mean, it’s in your title “GENTLE-man”.
  • You can have cake and eat it too. What I mean is this… you can be a good, respectful guy and have the same type of woman on your arm. SINGULAR…woman. The player mentality, leave that in 2019.
  • Be real with yourself.
  • You can be great too in this world that tells you you cannot. Black men graduate. Black men run businesses. Black men go to church. Black men can smile, laugh, do good, be an example, be a father. The list will forever go on.

Last thought.

  • Be good to yourself. This goes out to everyone. The old and young. The ‘sacrificers’ of the family, the go-getters, entrepreneurs, bloggers, stylists…pause and be good to yourself. Treat yourself more. Self-care is important for both men and women. Don’t let 2020 catch you doing the same thing you did all year. DO BETTER!