Remember Who You Are.

Hello beautiful people! Happy new month of October. Let’s make these last 3 months of 2020 count.

Today’s post I want to remind you of who you are, because sometimes you (and me) forget so I got you. The first thing you need to keep in mind at all times is who made you. That’s number one because you were made to be someone, do a certain thing, and have a purpose. God created each of us differently for a reason. Sometimes we may feel like following the crowd and “the world” is appealing, but it’s not. Not because someone else is doing something mean you have to go do it too. Remember who you are and what your purpose on this earth is to do. Once you figure out your purpose, everything else falls into place. Trust me. Also, read this past post for some extra help on discovering your purpose: Listen To God.

If you’ve ever felt like you have let yourself turn into something you never thought you’d be…

  • Write down the qualities you want to exhibit.
  • Take steps to changing the bad habits you have adopted.
  • Figure out why you’ve allowed yourself to get so deep in that bad mentality.

If you forgot why it’s important to be yourself and embrace who you are…

  • Make time to spend with people who appreciate, lift you up, encourage you, and know who you are.
  • Let go off excess baggage (people + things).
  • Remember to always do what’s best for you.

STYLE DEETS:

This pregnancy I’m all for comfort, chic style, street style and overall going with what I think is cute. I can’t conform to maternity clothes! Let me know in the comments if you loved the look!

Oversized shirt: Asos

Shoes: Ego Shoes

Denim-Oversized Baggy Fit: Topshop

Thanks for stopping by!

Bringing Joy With Hatch.

Wow! We’re winding down on the final days of September and I am in disbelief okay. Time is flying by and this pandemic/covid session has overstayed its’ time. However, I digress. We ought to focus on the better days ahead!

So! I’ve collaborated with HATCHgal, to bring you this beautiful floral summer to fall dress that can be worn to bring joy to mothers to be, during and after pregnancy. How beautiful is that right? As pregnancy goes, the changes comes and sometimes we may not feel our best, but I’m glad to have this beautiful addition to my fall wardrobe!

I normally hate maternity clothes (always have since pre-pregnancy), however this dress has changed my mind. I love how flows it is and how versatile it is as well. I can wear this with a turtle neck underneath or even with a knit sweater over it! I cannot wait until it gets really cold to layer!

Disclaimer/full disclosure: This is a sponsored post, all thoughts in my review are my own. This dress was gifted.

A Few Ways You Can Find Joy Everyday

Listen to your favorite song, while dancing around the house.

Learning to cook new meals (desserts + dinner meals).

Make self-care a part of your routine- consistently + intentionally.

Surround yourself with people who make you feel your best.

Shop at your favorite store + splurge at least once a month (needed).

Get out in nature, outdoors, get some fresh air!

Take photos, make videos, laugh more.

Count your blessing (write it down).

Make room for your dreams, passions, and goals.

Trust me, if you do atleast one of these things per day or week, you’ll be sure to add joy in your life!

Dress Details

The Yumi Dress// Pink Falling Bouquet from HATCHcollection.com

September.

Updates. Goals. What To Expect.

Hi guys, welcome back to Keeping Up With MJ! Today’s post is a bit loaded, so grab a snack + drink and let’s get into it, that’s if you’re interested in actually reading (some people love to skim). It’s a great post I promise!

Okay so quick life update if you don’t follow me on instagram, husbae & I are PREGNANT! Yes, we have been blessed to be future parents. It’s honestly an amazing feeling. I never would have imagined being pregnant during a pandemic, however it has been quite satisfying to see my belly go from flat to basketball size in months haha. I do miss seeing everyone, but I did enjoy the facetime calls to share the news. The reactions have been priceless! I’m also pretty excited because my baby will be the first great-grandchild for my maternal grandmother which is an honor!

The love and positivity we have been receiving from friends and family when told the news have been so overwhelming and heartwarming. I’m praying that we have a safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery! Keep us in your prayers as we venture on this new journey.

FAQs (well some that I remember)

  1. How did you guys find out?
  2. Did you guys plan to have a baby?
  3. Did you get morning sickness?
  4. How did husbae react to the news?
  5. How many months are you?
  6. Are you going to blog about your pregnancy?
  7. Do you have any cravings?
  8. Do you know the gender yet?
  9. Do you have a baby registry?
  10. How do you feel about everything?

So majority of these questions (and more) will be answered in my next youtube video. If you have questions you’ll want me to answer, leave them in the comment section! As for question #6, the answer is YES! I plan to blog about my experiences of being pregnant, the highs and lows. It’s such a complex and exciting topic, I want to be as intentional as possible about what I share with you all. Hopefully I help people who may want to get pregnant in the future!

You can check out our pregnancy reveal video below!

Current Feelings

As of right now, I feel great. I find myself staring at my stomach in the mirror a lot lately and I can’t keep my hands off! It’s crazy. All my photos now are with my hands on my belly, the typical pregnant woman pose I use to laugh at! Besides that, sleeping have been very uncomfortable. My mom bought me a maternity pillow, but that does not seem to help me sleep better every night. Some nights I sleep like a little baby, all cuddled up under my husbae and other nights I’m twitching and turning because I’m either too hot or too cold! The struggle is REAL. I use to sleep on my belly (favorite sleeping position), but now I can’t do that. It’s recommended to sleep on my left side (more recommended) or right side…and that’s not comfortable for me! My jeans don’t fit y’all. Literally ZERO of my jeans can button up. I’ve been wearing dresses majority of the time and pants I have with elastic waistnbands. I hate maternity clothes because it looks so “granny-ish”, but my sister been trying to wheel me into buying them. I told her the only way I’d wear it is if it’s cute and my style!

I started grad school. So far it’s been a challenge remembering to keep it in my schedule, but other than that my classes are cool. Yes, we have been getting homework already. Welcome to adult life! I’m just so excited to be in school again, although I actually hate being in school forreal haha.

Goals

Some goals for the month:

  • Create more content for my youtube channel
  • Create my pregnancy section on the blog
  • Read ahead for all my classes
  • Land more brand partnerships (+maternity brands)
  • Read more books (at least 2/3 for the month)
  • Home Decor/Start Baby Shopping Venture

What’s your goals for the month? Leave them in the comments!

What To Expect

What to expect this month? Blessings on blessings from God. And that’s on PERIODDD.

Thanks for reading! Don’t forget to subscribe to my youtube channel and follow my socials to always keep up with me! xoxo MJ.

Don’t Cancel 2020 Just Yet!

“THIS PANDEMIC RUINED MY TRAVEL PLANS. I WAS SUPPOSED TO START MY BUSINESS THIS YEAR. I CAN’T HAVE A REAL GRADUATION ANYMORE. I DIDN’T GET TO CHECK EVERYTHING OFF MY BUCKET LIST. THIS SUMMER IS A SHAM. COVID RUINED MY YEAR.”

**Disclaimer: I know people barely read nowadays or appreciate blogs anymore, so thank you to the few of you who are taking time to read this. I hope it is helpful and beneficial to your growth!**

These are all complaints I have heard throughout the months, all up to this very day. I am guilty of some, however I have realized that this year does not have to be a total “Cancelation“, well not just yet. You can take back control of 2020 and still WIN & SUCCEED during this world pandemic we are experiencing. Want to know how? Keep reading, I got you.

BEFORE READING PLEASE REMEMBER THAT THERE ARE STILL MORE WAYS FOR YOU TO REDEFINE AND TAKE BACK WHAT 2020 STOLE FROM YOU. KEEP IN MIND YOU HOLD THE KEYS TO THE REMAINING 4 MONTHS.

What can I do to take back control of 2020?

  1. Revisit your checklist or add to it.

Honestly this is better said than done, but it’s better when you’re actually doing it people. Revisiting your checklist can be beneficial because there are still some goals on your list worth completing. Example: I wanted to get back into school and complete my Master’s Degree, but I procrastinated and missed the deadline. Due to Covid-19/Pandemic Period my program was extended 3 months of ample time to apply. Guys, this is a program that is only offered in the Fall, so I would’ve had to wait a whole year to apply again. I mean, if this wasn’t a sign from God that good things can come from bad situations, I don’t know what was! Sometimes you have to just see the good in things even when it looks like it’s the end. So YES, when I advise you to revisit your goals and still check things off your list…I know what I’m talking about from experience!

2. Set daily, weekly, and monthly goals.

(1) Do you have a business or want to start a business?

(2) Do you have a blog or want to start one?

(3) Do you want to grow on your social media accounts?

(4) Do you want to build your relationship with God?

(5) Do you want to start saving towards your future?

(6) Do you want to start a new job? A new school venture?

(7) Do you want to move into a new home or buy a home?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you may want to read this section. Okay y’all, setting reminders and making schedules can be time consuming and dreary, trust me I know! I’ve tried and gave up sometimes, but honestly it’s a step into the right direction. I know that planning efficiently produces the best outcomes, that is why I suggest you plan and jot down your daily, weekly and monthly goals. Whether it’s if you want to have 10 more followers by next month or $100 more dollars added to your savings account, set the goals and make it come to fruition.

Plan it out and watch it come into fruition!

-MJ

3. Do more of what brings your heart peace, joy and happiness.

What brings you absolute joy? I mean what makes you feel good inside when you do it, see it, or create it? Ask yourself this question and dwell on your response for a minute.

Take a minute.

Okay, I hope you were able to answer those two questions. With everything being on a somewhat standstill, this is really the time to just go for whatever it is you been wanting to try without thinking twice about it. You love creating things, do it. Turn it into a business. You love learning? Amazing, go get your education. You love writing? Cool, start a blog or write a book. Start at it. You have a talent you been hiding? Share it with the world. Create your own platform where your viewers can enjoy it. The possibilities are endless.

PRO TIP: GO FOR IT AND DO NOT TURN BACK. WE ARE TOO AFRAID OF BEING CRITIQUED OR BEING TOLD NO SOMETIMES. THE TIME IS NOW TO JUST GET OUT THERE (NOT LITERALLY OBVIOUSLY) BUT GET OUT THERE AND DO THAT THING YOU WANTED TO ALWAYS DO!

I really hope you take the leap in making your dreams come true, live better and goals checked off. Don’t beat yourself up, you got this! Thank you for reading. xoxo MJ.

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Listen To God.

Hello my lovelies! Welcome back to #KUWMJ blog.

This year is a living testimony of “God is in control”. This pandemic has been going strong for months and yet still we still have no way of figuring out what’s next. Honestly, I have up trying. This year I promised myself that I would be intentional in everything that I do, create and put out into the world. With that being said, I purposely wanted to kill two birds with one stone in this post by shedding light on what it really means/take to listen to God and to highlight my tee shirt which was made by someone who is also intentional on making sure he spreads the message to you to “listen to God.

Listen To God?

To some it is gibberish to even say the words, more less believe them. To me, listening to God is more than thinking he said to do something and doing it. It means to be fully open to hearing and not at all times understanding what he’s telling you to do and just doing it without doubt. As I grow in years, I know now that the only way to hear God or know what he wants/expects of us is by reading the Bible, devotion, prayer and a relationship with him. If you’re not doing any of these, you won’t know what God wants of you. 

If God is always listening to us, why is it so hard for us to do the same for him in return? (I’m speaking to myself as well). It sometimes feel like we have all the time in the world to do the right thing or get our lives together, but in actuality we have ZERO TIME. Lives are lost everyday my loves. Are you willing to leave this world without being right with God?

I’ve put together some ways that we can all practice listening to God:

  • Keep a prayer journal- I had one of these and somehow neglected it. The benefits of it is to keep track of what you’ve prayed for and to see what God has already done for you.
  • Read your bible- This is non-negotiable if you’re serious.
  • Have a daily devotional
  • Ask God questions and wait for an answer- Sometimes God answers our prayers through other people. He also shows himself through different situations in our lives. PAY ATTENTION.

These are steps to take to grow your relationship with God, which in return strengthens the bond to the point where you’ll be able to listen when He speaks to you. I hope this post was helpful.

Be sure to check out @AntidoteMusiq on instagram to shop his “Listen To God” clothing! I love his message and his drive. Keep spreading positivity sir & I will always support your business!

Skirt: H&M | Sneakers: Nike

Hat: @ShopStCole on Instagram

If you have any questions or comments, be sure to leave one below! Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

Top Stores To Shop + How To Get Cash Back.

My name is Marikah and I’m a shopperholic. *Whew that felt good to admit haha*. Okay, I’m not alone because majority of the time I post a dope outfit or other accessories on my instagram stories, a bunch of you reach out to find out where I got it. So I decided to do a blog post giving you some deets on my favorite go-to stores to shop (some non-clothing related) and my secret to saving money even though I’m spending. If you’re interested in knowing that information, keep reading!

Top Stores To Shop [Online/In-store]

  1. ASOS. This is a big spill because Asos is my go-to store, especially since you can subscribe/pay for the two day shipping which comes in handy ever so often! Why wait 3-5 days when you can get your outfits in 2 days? Exactly. Another reason I absolutely love asos is because they have the most random sales. I’m a girl who love my discounts/sales so this is a PLUS. Nothing I love more than a little discount. Asos also has clothing fit for any occassion. This is something I appreciate a lot. So there you have it my three main reasons I love Asos. Here’s a few outfits I copped from Asos.

Yellow pleated dress, black scooped back bodysuit, pastel yellow dress and yellow suit.

2. SHEIN. Honestly, I slept on Shein back in the days. It’s actually a great online shore for finding dupes and style on a budget. It’s a hit or miss sometimes, but when you get a hit it’s a HIT. I bought all my swimwear for my honeymoon from Shein. One day I’ll show you guys those photos. Definitely check out the website.

3. ZARA. Everyone knows Zara has dope pieces. I choose wisely because so much people shop their now. The prices are pretty high, but the quality is great. I think because I worked their in the past it has made me more open to shopping there. I sure do miss the employee discounts though!

4. LEVIs. Top store for denim jeans. It’s pricey, but the quality is long lasting. You can go years without if you buy one or two pairs. In my book that’s a win. I usually buy my jeans when there’s a sale, but if I really want it bad, I’ll pay the full price.

5. ST.COLE [new addition]. You’re welcome in advance. Someone put me on and I won’t be stingy and not share it. I bought a dope hat from here recently and I’m patiently waiting to be notified of when the next ones I want come back in stock.

6. NORDSTOM RACK. Don’t sleep on them like me. My sisters love this store and I too now share their love for it. The best prices and all the everything you never knew you needed!

Okay more stores to check out, I’ll just list them:

7. HOME DEPOT. For your plant needs and wants! Check out my youtube video to see my plant video! Link HERE.

8. BEDSCAPE. For all your bed dreams and desires!

9. BELLOCQ. Great kitchen necessities and wants!

10. SUNGLASS SPOT. All the glasses and shades you NEED all at $5. You’re welcome!

11. GLOSSIER. All your skincare and makeup needs. Here’s a 10% off link on me!

12. BOOTAY BAG. Get your panties and bras delivered every month with your subscription of like $10-15 bucks! You’re welcome.

13. LULUS. Quality clothing, shoes, accessories.

14. FOREVER 21. DO. NOT. SLEEP. ON. THEM. That’s all. I got a fur coat from them last year and it will last me forever! Here’s a picture of me in it.

15. H&M. I recently started shopping here again and I’m satisfied with the outcome.

16. MANGO. LOVE LOVE LOVE MANGO. A bit pricey, but you can get lucky and catch a sale!

17. AMAZON. Guys, for all your needs amazon got you. Accessories, home goods, clothing, bedding you name it!!

18. LAST BUT NOT LEAST, a list of “black owned logos” curated by my friend Evelyn on her blog “Her Neck Of The Woods”! CLICK HERE to view.

That’s about all the stores I can remember for now. Any additional ones, I’ll come back and add it to this post.

How To Get Cash Back When You Shop

So I’ve been shopping and getting cash back whenever I do from certain stores. Want to know how? Easy. I signed up for Rakuten (known as beats before) to get a percentage of money back when I shop at qualifying stores.

INSTRUCTIONS TO EARN CASH BACK:

  • Sign up with your email using this link–> I WANT CASH BACK
  • Download the app on your phone or computer
  • Whenever you’re ready to shop type in the name of the store
  • Click the store, then your cash back will be activated
  • After your purchase check back the app and you’ll see the cash back in your account

I’ve been using this since 2018 earning cash back and here are my results! You will only receive the cash back when you’ve earned back more than $5 and in every three months.

Hopefully this helps! I definitely recommend that you sign up and get money back….YOUR money back when you shop. Think of it as a discount every time you shop! It’s amazing. Let me know if you have questions.

I hope you enjoyed this post! Thanks so much for stopping by! XO MJ.