How To Acquire A Well-Balanced Life.

Happy month 3 of 2020! Are you looking to acquire some balance in your life? If so, keep reading for some helpful tips, incite and lessons I have learned over time.

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As a college graduate (2017/2018 grad), newlywed (2019) and an adult striving to obtain a career and life goals, it has been hectic. With the bubbly feels of accomplishment, a huge significant life-changing move, years piling up on each other every birthday, responsibilities multiplying and aspirations/goals so aggressively needed to be tended to, I have been loaded with a heap of emotions. Recently I asked myself, am I living a well-balanced life?, and after being in deep thought here is what I figured out.

All the events came at me fast and I was feeling excited, pumped and striving to be my best while doing it all and doing it well. What I thought as ‘holding myself accountable’, was me getting everything done routinely.

What I pictured as a well-balanced life was not what I was living. I began to dread doing the things I once was excited about doing. At times, we as human beings often mix our dreams with reality and believe that when we become adults we would automatically just have it all together and figured out. And boom“A happily ever after”, the end, book closed. Wrong. As a matter of fact, book open…it’s on to the next chapter! Surprising as it is, that idea of a balanced life as an adult for most of us still do not exist because we haven’t let ourselves accept it does not exist. Although that version does not exist, it does not mean a well-balanced life is nonexistent. 

I remember one month in my new apartment I started to freak out. There were boxes everywhere so I could barely find my stuff, I just did groceries, the house needed to be cleaned, bills needed to be sorted out, clothes needed to be unpacked, and I still was getting back into my work routine, it was A LOT! I felt like I did not know what I was doing. Everyone kept asking me “how’s married life” left, right and center. It was a bit chaotic. Chaotic and my life does not go well together. If you know me, you know that I live for organization + structure, but it was challenging. So much for being ‘balanced’.

Fighting for more balance can make you exhausted.

A Well Balanced Life Does Not Equate To Your Successes

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From my experience, I can say I let my expectancy of what I thought a well-balanced life was supposed to look like, dictate what I was doing on day-to-day. Big mistake. Having to manage my daily work + home schedule, clean, cook, as well as maintain a social life, blog life, study life and all the other miscellaneous things I love required balance. If you saw me on the street you would think that I had my life all figured out. I thought that if I could do all these things, it made me a success and I was killing it. 

You can’t be overworked and happy. It does not exist because something will not add up correctly. 

I crave structure and organization. I decided that recently that in order to accomplish my goals I needed to do things differently. This involved me making time for other things that were truly important to me, while also getting things done in my home.

What is a well-balanced life you ask?

Having a well-balanced life is not about doing it all and doing it well. It’s about doing what is important and right for you, at a timely pace. It means that you do what is best for you, no hold-backs. It means that you can handle various elements in your life and do not feel like you are going to hit rock bottom or your heart will explode. 

Some helpful tips to help you stay calm and acquire a well-balanced life:

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  • Simplify your lifestyle.
  • Nurture yourself.
  • Keep healthy: emotionally, physically, spiritually.
  • Do what is important to you.
  • GWTF (Go with the flow).
  • Stay Afloat and Grounded (writing lists, jotting down helpful tips can be a huge help).
  • Take it one step at a time.
  • Expect the unexpected sometimes.

As life changes our priorities change as well and that is okay. We may still struggle with the expectancy of things, sometimes by looking at how someone else did something. That is normal, but do not get into the habit of comparison. That is the number one leading cause of “messing up your mind”. I’m learning every day how to do what is important to me regularly. My well-balanced life comes only when I figure out what works best for me and this new life I’m venturing with my husbae. Trying to do it all and be a superwoman is not what I strive to be at all, however, doing what’s best for both of us might make me well-grounded and that is a goal.

A necessity for a well-balanced life

Last but not certainly least, a well-balanced life would be nothing without God. Make sure God is always at the forefront of everything you do. That’s number one on the list! God not only completes us but he wants us to live a life that is pleasing to him, which includes love, health, structure, and order. 

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I hope this post was helpful. Be sure to subscribe to receive an email whenever I post! How do you stay well balanced? Answer in the comments.

Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

The Wedding Guest List: The Art Of Choosing.

Hello everyone. It’s Tuesday, which means its #weddingserieswithMJ time! If you been following me on Instagram, you know that I started this wedding series about a month ago where I share some tips, advice, and some realness to my future brides and also to anyone interested in knowing my thoughts/feelings. Today is no different. I usually post to Instagram, but I felt like this post would be a little more lengthy and it’s worthy of a blog post! Keep up with me on Instagram, by following me HERE.

Now that that’s in order, let’s get into the good stuff.

Wedding Guest List

This is possibly the worst part of wedding planning, in my opinion. It’s literally bittersweet. This is the day you would have to put on your big girl and big boy underwear and make some tough decisions. Honestly, it took me and husbae A LONG TIME to get our list figured out. It was so hard. It wasn’t that hard. No, it was hard. 

Before you make the tough decisions of adding and subtracting names, you have to first have these things covered:

  • Your wedding budget
  • A specific # of people you want there
  • Whether you want a small, intimate wedding or a big one
  • Family and close friends only or friends from near or far (associate even)
  • People you’ve known for a super long time but lost contact
  • All your relatives or just the ones that have been close to you

Once you have these covered, you’ll be on your way to making your guest list official. The thing that can be stressful is wanting to invite more people than your budget can afford. Do not get caught up in that endless number game, adding past your initial number! It is not worth it, trust me. Save your coins, honey. 

Set your number and do not go past it. Period!

It is so easy to keep tricking yourself into believing that you NEED to add this person or that person, but if you are surpassing your number then that means you may have to reevaluate if that person would just not be added or you may have to subtract another name and add theirs instead. That is the reality of it. 

Do not feel guilty

It is easy to feel guilty. Guilty for not inviting someone, guilty for having to take someone’s name off the list, guilty for forgetting to add someone to the list, or guilty for just not wanting someone there that your spouse wanted there. Take it easy on yourself. This is not the end of the world. 

Of course, we wanted to invite ALL of our friends/associates/long-distance peeps, but we could not. It’s nice to have great social media friends, but those friends are not all eligible for a wedding guest list, especially if the only time they actually talk to you is when they comment under your photo. Be REAL people! That is not how life works and you (you as in the ones who would not get the invite to that wedding) should not feel upset or be mad at the bride/groom. It is not until you endure planning a wedding would you truly understand why. And please remember that it is not always about “who you knew the longest”, it’s actually about who have been constant + consistent with you until this very day. That goes for NEW + OLD. Brides tend to feel obligated to invite people based of of long time periods of knowing them, trust me when I say that could be lit on fire and blown up in an instant. I can attest to that fact. I speak on this a little more in my previous post HERE.

Money does not grow on trees. People are not rich out here.

I mean, unless you are and you could invite as many people as you want with no worries!

Do not be afraid to cut someone off the list if they are not going to bring you the positive energy that you need on your wedding day. Remember it is YOUR DAY!

One piece of advice I remember getting A LOT was to also invite people with real-life jobs. Yes, it’s cool to want your friends there, but are your friends really interested in giving you a great wedding gift or they just want to turn up with you? Be REAL. Be SMART. I’m not saying that they would not have your best interest at heart, but there are some older folks who want to help you start your life off the best way you can and that blessing is a blessing in itself! Don’t disregard them. Don’t keep them off your list because they’re “old”. They are needed for their wisdom and they deserve a seat at the table for all they’ve done over the years. All the love they have shown.

Be wise. The old show us their wisdom in many ways.

Last thing: Do not invite someone you have to think hard to remember. If the names do not come flowing as you’re making it, then they were not supposed to be on the list. The names should flow easily as you and your husbae to be is making it!

Okay, I think I covered it all tonight for the wedding guest list. I hope this was helpful to someone out there!

Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

6 Ways To Fight Writer’s Block.

Writers’ block can be a pain. It can make us writers feel like we are incompetent, lesser, and like we are losing the one thing that should just flow…words. I have been a victim of writer’s block many many times, so I have accumulated some helpful tips to help you push through writer’s block. If you’ve been faced with this problem, this post is for you!

My most favorite place to write is on my bed under my comfy comforter. Sometimes I enjoy having the window open to have some sunlight in or some soft music that will calm my mind and help my thoughts to just easily flow to my fingertips. This is not always 100% successful because distractions occur. 

HERE ARE 6 TIPS TO FIGHT WRITERS BLOCK:

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1. Turn your phone on do not disturb (or completely off).

We know ourselves enough to know that there will always be that one notification that we’ll keep checking and that one text message we have to answer. If you want to get serious brain juice flowing, it’s a must to turn the phone off or set it aside. You owe it to yourself to have a peaceful space to write without anyone bugging you. 

2. Make it something you do on a regular basis.

Practice makes perfect, agree or disagree? We hear this saying so often, but never actually do it. 9 times out of 10, if you actually write every day, it will become easier and writer’s block would not take a toll on your mind. The greatest writers didn’t just wake up and boom they became great. You have to make your writing a priority. Read, gain knowledge, find inspiration outside and just write what you feel. Give yourself a daily time that can encourage yourself to write each day. Incorporating writing prompts can also help.

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3. Get inspired, stay inspired, be the inspiration.

Easy. Read more. 

Train signs or posters. Wall art. Newspapers. Read a thesaurus or dictionary and learn new ways to say things differently. 

Visit museums. Take walks in the park. Sit under the sun. Take coffee shop visits. All these are ways to get inspired and stay inspired daily. Try it.

4. Find more ways to keep your readers/audience interested in your writing.

Are you changing your writing style? Are you still interesting to your audience? Are they even reading your work? These are all questions I have asked myself while having writer’s block and the only way to obtain an answer is to reach out to your readers.

Ask questions.

Engage with polls.

Ask their opinions.

See what they like or are interested in.

Give advice, but also receive it too.

The ball is in your court as the writer, but the court is actually your audience. Don’t get carried away.

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5. Crush your to-do lists first.

You can’t peacefully write knowing that you haven’t completely crossed out everything on your to-do list. It takes focus and dedication to write something worth your readers’ time and yours. So the best thing to do is get it all done before you sit in your quiet place to write. Your creative juices will flow way better after, trust me.

6. Set a specific time for writing.

Take the time to write.

No exceptions.

Let your mind do the talking and your fingers do the writing.

Use a pen + paper. A book. A journal. Leave the computer/laptop alone sometimes.

++I hope this post was helpful. Have a beautiful day. XO MJ.

Styling Strappy Heels 3 Ways.

We all have some strappy heels in our closet. Some may be block heel, skinny heel or block heel, but either way, the strappy heels are the most fun! This style post is showing you how I style my chunk strappy heels 3 different ways for some chic and stylish looks! 

I hope it gives you some style inspiration. Be sure to pin these looks on Pinterest for later.

The first look is my chunky yellow sweater with paperbag denim jeans + my strappy heels. For this look, I was going for a cute + comfortable look. The accessory I chose was this transparent yellow handbag that literally makes the outfit whole. A perfect outfit for spring. You can wear this for a casual date night or even for a brunch date with the girls!

LOOK 1:

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The second look is my puff sleeve ruffle dress with cropped denim jeans + my strappy heels. This is more of a fun look. Very trendy, street style outfit for the girl who’s not afraid to dress outside of the box. The accessory I chose was this pearl bag + my wallet jelly phone case bag which is very #ontrend now ladies!

Fashion is for everyone, but style is personal. It’s what you bring to the table! -MJ

LOOK 2:

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The third look is my boiler suit or jumpsuit + my strappy heels. For my accessory, I chose this faux fur triangular bag which gives a fun, but trendy look to my outfit. This is perfect for fancy events, a trip to a museum, or out for drinks with a friend.

LOOK 3:

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All three looks are definitely worth a try! I hope this was helpful. Let me know if you try any of them. Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

All Photos By Duran Andrae.

Celebrate Love With Glossier You.

As the world goes crazy over “Valentine’s Day” every year, I usually think back to how that day came about. I’m not going to go over the nitty-gritty of it all, but I’m here to say let’s change the narrative! I mean… that’s how “Galentine’s Day” came about and that’s been the best fake holiday ever since! Instead of gushing over your other half, just celebrate love with your close family and friends, so that no one feels left out!

Today’s post is about the Glossier You, which is glossier’s one and only perfume. It has a nice, light scent that’s not too girly and feminine. This scent was made for people who like their scents to last throughout the day! If you watched previous videos I’ve made about glossier you would have seen the glossier you solid, the small compact perfume in a small case that glossier use to sell. It’s now out of commission. As sad as that is, at least we have the glossier you to still bask in!

The perfect gift set.

The Glossier You come with a special set now that is perfect for every girl on the go. It comes with the Pro Tip (eyeliner that is very precise and easy to use) and the Clear Lip Gloss (Yes I know I have the red pictured here, but you should definitely invest in both if you’re a gloss girl like me!). The cost for the set of 3 is $75 and the Glossier You by itself is $60. Yes it is a bit pricey, but it is worth the buy. And a tip for when you do get yours, use it sparingly! One spray can go a long way.

You can get this set for a loved one, family member, friend, girlfriend, aunt, sister or yourself. Give a little, get a little! Don’t forget to use my link for 10% off your purchase!CLICK HERE.

Thanks for stopping by! XOXO MJ. Remember to celebrate love every single day, not just one day!

Everything Is Fine With Mejuri.

Hello my loves. Happy first day of the week. I hope you are having the most amazing day. If not, hopefully this post will put a smile on your face!

Something to make you smile: “Find beauty in every day. A sunset. A breath of fresh air. A happy memory. A friendly smile. Beauty is everywhere.” Please remember that today, tomorrow and always. Don’t every feel like you are not good enough or beautiful enough. You are enough because you were made just the way you are on purpose and with a purpose!

If you haven’t heard of Mejuri, don’t worry about it. I’ll fill you in! Mejuri is a fine jewelry brand that is perfect if you’re a minimalist and prefer simple necklaces or rings with your everyday look. I don’t usually wear jewelry, (except for my rings) but I am in love with this necklace! It’s perfect.

It goes with just about everything. The necklace I’m wearing is the dot necklace which is not expensive at all! Simple + affordable is a bargain ladies. Very great addition to your everyday style looks.

What do you think? Would you wear this piece or do you like your necklaces to stand out? Let me know in the comments!

Thanks for stopping by. XO MJ. Have an amazing week.

Wedding Day Getting Ready + My Bridesmaids.

Hey stars! I hope you been shinning bright throughout the week so far. Happy Tuesday! Last week I decided to start a new wedding series via instagram where I’ll share my wedding tips and/or what I’m learning as a wife + newlywed. I’ll also be writing up a post here on the blog as well!

PS: If you missed last week’s juice, click here to watch my wedding dress vlog + my SAY YES TO THE DRESS moment! Get your tissues ready!

Today’s JUICE is all about getting ready for the big day!

Tip #2: Have fun, breathe & smile for the camera!

No lie guys, the days leading up to my wedding day I was super excited. I didn’t have that much anxiety…UNTIL the night before and the morning of. It wasn’t because I was going to be a runaway bride or anything, but I felt nervous. All the questions rushed through my head, would everything go smoothly? Will I look the way I imagined? Did I forget anything? Would our dance routine look like we practiced? Would I pee myself when everyone is staring at me walk down the aisle? BANANAS! I woke up super early and I was chatty patty with one of my bridesmaids (another reason why you need to pick your bridesmaids wisely). She calmed me all the way down and made me feel like myself again.

After that, the “Getting Ready” process went as smooth as can be! I was worry free and we all got dolled up with some good music, food and great vibes. Doing my makeup (and the bridesmaids makeup) was Danielle Henry, a talented MUA and a long time friend & her assistant. She stayed our faces, especially mine! I also gave my bridemaids a box of goodies, and of course if you know me, you know I’m soft on the inside so I also included a handwritten note inside. They were shocked and teary-eyed as they read my notes. Best. Moment. Ever. I knew I wanted my bridesmaids to all have a robe for our photos, so I also included that within their box!

STORY TIME: So I ordered all our robes the same time. Of course my robe was supposed to be white because I’m the bride, however my robe got taken to the venue by accident (husbae’s fault lol). Thankfully I had an extra robe, so I improvised instead of staying upset that I didn’t have it. It worked out, thank God. Fun fact: I found my robe after I came back from my honeymoon haha. Brides, please double check your bag before leaving for the hotel. You may not be so lucky like ME! Now let’s see these photos right?

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All Photography by George Street Photo Co.

Special thank you to my #bridequeens for making sure I had everything and that everything went smoothly. I truly love these ladies! It sure does take a village to get ready for a wedding!

Let me re-introduce to my ladies:

I hope you guys are enjoying my wedding content. Forgive me for taking so long to show all the photos, but it’s A LOT to choose from to share! I can’t wait to share the reception content, wedding video and maybe a snippet of me walking down the aisle! All to come in the future wedding posts. Thanks for reading. See you on the next post! Don’t forget to subscribe to keep up with me! XO MJ.

 

Glossier’s Skincare Edit + A Limited Edition Product.

Hello stars! Yes, you’re a star. Welcome back. So glad you decided to come visit my blog today. This post should be satisfying if you’re into taking care of your skin!

Question, how many of you care about your skincare routine? (All of you should be saying ME) Okay so you’re going to want to stay for this post.

If you didn’t know, I’m a Glossier Rep, which means I have my own page on their website + I have a 10% off discount link especially for you. As a rep I recommend products I’ve tried and the ones I love. (I would never recommend something I dislike) And if I’m being completely transparent, a SMALL portion of your portion goes towards my commission. It honestly benefits you more than me, however I really love this company and stand 100% by their products! That’s the truth. So, to the ones who support me and shop using my link, you a real one & I hope you LOVE your products!

Glossier came out with the skincare edit, which is basically a compilation of 6 mini sized products + 2 exclusive glossier wear products. It’s honestly genius because for people who haven’t yet experienced glossier products, they get so many minis to try out to see if they love them! These mini sized goodies are so cute and literally will fit in anywhere, especially to my traveling gals + guys!

What comes inside you might wonder?

  • Future Dew *fav
  • Milky Jelly Cleanser *fav
  • Super Bounce *new to me
  • 2 Balm Dot Coms *fav
  • Priming Moisturizer in RICH *fav
  • Headband *new
  • Glossier Scarf *new

I incorporated this video so you can see these products alongside the full sized ones. I hope you enjoy this video & I hope it helps!

Watch this!

Glossier Rep LINK + 10% off

Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ. Remember to subscribe to keep up all 2020 loves!

2020: Be Intentional.

Hey loves! Happy New Year! It’s finally 2020 and I have already had so many blessings poured my way. This year I am claiming the 3 P’s:

Peace, Prosperity & Patience.

As a person who have had highs and lows throughout her life, this year I’m choosing to not let it get in the way of my greatness. It’s okay to fail, but make sure you keep trying. Someone once told me that failure is part of the process and part of the bigger picture. It was hard at first to accept that, but as time has progressed I have implemented into my daily life. This year is the year of being 100% intentional in every aspect of life. Work, school, marriage, friendship, careers, aspirations, goals and dreams. Nothing is too big or too small.

Questions to ask yourself:
How can you be intentional this year?
What can you do differently this year than you did last year?
How can you leave your legacy in this world?
What do you want to accomplish?

Coming to the blog this year…

  • Brand collaborations– I promise to never work with a brand I’m not proud of or love.
  • Quotes, affirmations and scriptures to keep you motivated
  • Wedding content– As a newlywed I still have a lot to share with upcoming brides and I also have some photos and video content for you guys to see!
  • More video content!
  • How to’s and style tips
  • Beauty content– As you all know I’m a glossier rep, so more recommendations, videos, and my favorite products + other makeup brands.
  • Journaling
  • Start of a dream of mine, a book!

I hope you are subscribed to my blog to keep up with all the things I have in store for you this year! Thanks so much for stopping by! XO MJ.

 

3 Things You Should Have In Your Closet.

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All Photos By Duran Andrae

 

Hey guys! As we wrap up 2019 and prepare to bask in all 2020’s blessings, remember that the end of year sale is right around the corner! Hahaha. I know..you weren’t expecting that, but it’s true. Make sure you buy some pieces that will take in you into 2020 looking and feeling your best. Who said shopping had to be full-priced all the time?

Today’s post is for my fashionistas. You look shopping, but you get overwhelmed because you’re not always sure what to buy and how to put outfits together. I HEAR YOU. I SEE YOU. I AM HERE TO HELP!

3 Things You Should Have In Your Closet
  1. Oversized Blazer
  2. Belt Bag
  3. Dad Sneakers or Booties

These items are necessary (and extra perks if you’re married, I’ll elaborate soon) and will always allow you to switch up your looks. Whether you’re a blogger, stylist, or fashionista who likes to dress up!

Oversized Blazer- It can take your look from zero to SHERO! Pair itwith a tank, tee, or your favorite crew neck sweater and you'll beset. For me, I like to try new outfit looks and experiment, so Ipaired my oversized blazer with a tulle skirt, then with a tee, jeans & booties! For my wives (or girlfriends), we get extra cool pointsbecause we can steal our husband's suit jackets/blazers and use that!Perfect oversized-trendy look we love! That's my secret.

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Belt Bag– I used to hate belt bags until I tried it. Truth be told, they’re actually super convenient and it levels up your look! I have probably 3 or 4 belt bags now (and counting)! As I paired it here in this outfit, you can too! I believe if you go in my other style postsyou might see some belt bags that I have!

Dad Sneakers or Booties- Ladies, a must-have in your closet! I know some people are not feeling the "dad sneakers" look and some are, that's totally fine. We all have different taste for a reason! For me, my "dad sneakers" are my FILA sneakers that I bought from Urban Outfitters. I have two pairs and when I say they are comfy, they are comfy AF! Get you a pair! As for booties, you should have at least two pairs in your closet. That's mandatory sis. Pair your booties with a dress, jeans, skirt or even sweats (my next experimental look)!  
Here's a look at how to style dad sneakers!

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I hope this was helpful! Details on this look below:

Booties- Public Desire

Belt Bag & T-Shirt- ZARA

Blazer- Husbae's Closet

Tulle Skirt- ASOS

Dad Sneakers- Urban Outfitters
Enjoy this flipbook inspired by my blogger friend @JelissaBrooks!

Thanks for stopping by! Be sure to SUBSCRIBE TO MY BLOG! xoxo MJ.

 

Queen And Slim.

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I will keep embracing, keep holding, keep loving, and keep rooting for black love. Our stories deserve to be broadcasted, cherished and loved.

Last night I saw the film Queen And Slim. I had to write a blog post.

This movie taught me a few lessons, as a matter of fact, it reiterated what it means to be a black human being in a corrupt society.

This is so unlike me, writing about films I’ve watched, but this one is necessary.

Queen and slim is an important film. It’s kind of like a superhero movie, where you’re rooting for your favorite characters to win in the end like a fairytale, but then they don’t and you’re livid. This film was meant to make you livid. It was meant to open your eyes to what’s really going on in this world. It wasn’t meant to have a happy ever after, no matter how hard we were praying for one because like Issa said, we’re rooting for everybody black, and I definitely was. Call it bias if you want.

Lena Waithe (the genius behind this film) said, “My job is to make art that makes you think, and makes you question things. And I hope that’s what we did.” –Yep, she definitely nailed it with this one!

Love, anger, sacrifice, new experiences, realness, pain, and death. How could a movie hit it on the nail so perfectly that it felt like real life? From the start to the end I was in tune and felt like it could be me and my husband this could have happened to. One event after another felt like a page ripped from a book of any black person living in the US. When people say black lives matter, don’t get offended. When someone takes the time to appreciate and celebrate a black life, don’t feel like your life is any less. When you see a black couple being celebrated, broadcasted, and well appreciated, don’t ignore it. That’s a rare sight in a blind world.

This film depicted what it feels like to let a woman lead, while the man follows. The importance of that in itself showed that the power dynamic was so adequate and flowed so smoothly. No question, no doubt, just plain ole “GWTF” (Going with the flow).

Another important lesson I got from this movie was the question, ‘when you die, what will be your legacy? How will people remember you?’. Think about it. This should be steady on our minds, our thoughts and shown throughout our lives. 

The end of the film…the death of Queen and Slim. At that moment, when they got out of the car and was heading to the helicopter I felt liberated. I was rooting for them the whole movie and finally, they were getting the fairytale ending. If I’m being completely honest, I felt it in my gut that it was “too good to be true”. I knew this film had a purpose, and that purpose was not going to just end so smoothly where they got away scot-free. Then Slim is being all romantic (because he knows it’s about to go down) promising that he would’ve kissed her and Queen asking if she could be his legacy…the white cop lets the bullet loose on her. Queen drops. Slim is left devastated. I am happy that he didn’t just leave her body on the floor. He cared and saw her worth all the way through to his death.

I cried. 

I expected them to die together, not Queen being shot first. That was the jaw-dropping part of the movie for me. I did not expect that the black man would be the one who set them up. Total plot twist. Another plot twist was the black boy shooting the black cop in the face. Sadly he didn’t know that shooting that black man in no way made him iconic, immortal or memorable (in a good way).

Initial feelings–disgust, betrayal, anger. 

Queen and slim, they are every black boy, girl, man, and woman. What would you do in that situation? Would you run or would you live out your last few days (or hours) like actually live…do things you’ve never done while trying to survive.

This is one of the greatest love stories of all time. What’s your legacy?

— Photo of Queen & Slim by @PhotoDre

Confessions of a Newlywed.

Hey guys! Welcome back to my blog and a new post about all things wedding, post-wedding, etc. It’s been 3 months since my wedding!! Time flew by. As you can already tell from the title, this post will be about some untold confessions of what it’s like to be a newlywed. This should be super fun, but before I jump into the good stuff, I’ll be sharing one tip today for my soon-to-be brides!

You’re about to be a bride? Read this part.

Okay, I get it you’re excited, nervous, pumped, anxious, and you have ALL THE FEELS. Well, you should! I’ve put together some tips for you so that you’ll have the absolute best wedding day. However, they won’t be in this post. Only ONE TIP I’ll share with you. Sidebar: The next wedding post will be the rest!

Tip 1: Choose your bridal gang wisely. 

Sneak Peek of my QUEENS: Shenelle, Akilah, Akesia, Mercy, Julia H. & Julia M. + my flowergirls/boys Kailin, McKenzie-Rae, Matthias & Jai (ring-bearer).E_0541Facetune_23-12-2019-20-44-21 2.jpgFacetune_23-12-2019-19-51-43Be hella choosy with your close company! The ladies you choose are a representation of you. They could be your closest friends or family, or in some cases someone who has left a huge impact on your life. For me, I wanted to have genuine people who know me, love me, supported me, and been there for me on my good and bad days. It doesn’t matter the number you choose, but just make sure you’re not choosing people just to be “space fillers” or just because they will make your pictures look great. Make sure they are your real friends, a real bond, because it’s pretty embarrassing choosing someone, announcing it, then letting that person go before the wedding day comes. When I tell you people will notice, THEY NOTICE because they’re nosy. More importantly, you want your day to be perfect so choose people you know will do any and everything to make sure that happens for you.

** More tips coming in the next wedding post! Stay tuned.

Confessions of a Newly WED. (This should be pretty interesting…) Here’s some lines straight from the chest.

The first confession is that… these aren’t confessions. These are ‘my truths’.

As a newlywed, we believe (wives I’m speaking for us all), that we are our husbands everything and they should treat us as such. —boldfaced? YES.

Don’t follow my husbae unless I give you permission. *CHUCKLES, but very serious*

To my husbae, get use to that hot water when you shower with me, I ain’t changing it!

At work, I flash my ring (on purpose) when people look at me like I’m a child because of my babyface *rolls eyes*. I’m grown ma’am/sir.

I thought my ring would stop the thirsty dudes from attacking, but they are ruthless. They still trying. Lord send help!

Yes, we wives get extra wild, extra freaky, extra everything when we get that ring on our finger. We don’t care about no one’s opinions. Period. (I speak for me)

When husbae and I aren’t talking, at night I cuddle with him anyways on purpose…and he cuddles back *evil laugh*.

My husbae is better at the silent treatment than me, but I’ll soon LEVEL UP!

I miss coming home and just going to my bed and nap. Now I find myself always doing something around the house.

I thought my momma was my biggest fan when I used to cook, but my husbae actually is. (He gets major cool points + extras *wink wink*)

ABOUT 10,000 people asked me “How’s married life?” so far & it’s totally cool with me (sarcastic voice haha). TBH (To be honest), if it was terrible and I said it was terrible, what would be their response I wonder? Hahaha.

Married life is for learning, loving, adjusting, assembling, cooperating and head-bumping. 

I want to do everything with my husbae and I have no shame in that. 

I now feel like I’m my husbae’s bodyguard FOR LIFE. You come at him, you come at me. Period Pooh.

I have experienced being home two nights without my husbae and I am terrified. He better not let it happen again. (Check me again next year…I’ll probably have a different answer haha)

The art of communication is important. Still learning and unlearning daily.

“Don’t go to bed angry”…still learning that one. I haven’t mastered it yet.

I miss being a girlfriend. Fewer responsibilities *chuckles*. Shh Don’t tell my husbae.

Lastly, we aren’t perfect, but we’re imperfectly perfect together.

–Wives, what’s your “confession”? Leave it in the comments!

Here’s a few memes that also sums up my life as a newlywed. Prepare to die.

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THANKS FOR STOPPING BY! XO, MJ.