Is Growth Easily Obtainable?

Can you believe it’s May 2020 already? Time is indeed flying.

In today’s post I wanted to discuss a bit on the subject of growth. To me it’s a topic I’ll always be talking about because it’s something we can never stop doing (by choice you can). When I sit in my quiet space to write and fully reevaluate everything that is going on or I have been through, I think of the word growth every time. How did I grow from my past situation? Am I growing or am I stagnant in my ways? Am I practicing to have a growth mindset? These are just a few questions that comes to mind. Maybe you should ask yourself these questions also.

Is Growth Easily Obtainable?

I’m asking for a friend… No seriously, is growth easily obtainable? In my honest opinion, the answer is yes. The answer is yes, but there are some factors that comes with it. If you want to grow, it won’t happen overnight. Think about it, a plant doesn’t just grow in a day. Sometimes it takes a plant weeks before it sprouts out from beneath the dirt and months even to produce a new leaf. Growth is not something that is to be rushed. It happens overtime and when we take the steps to allow it, “growth” to sprout, it’s a beautiful thing.

3 Things About Growth You Do Not Want To Accept

  1. It happens when you least expect it.
  2. It may cause you to lose a friend or two…or ALL.
  3. It may not make you happy…during the process!

How you can obtain growth is to let it happen gradually. This is probably the only process we can just allow to do its thing in our life. That’s easier said than done because 99% of the time we want to see results FAST. I think that’s a normal human tendancy, however it’s not a good one to practice. Just as it is inevitable to stop the sun from rising and setting each day, it’s the same way it is inevitable for us to control our growth process. Controlling and obtaining, two different words. Don’t confuse them! We cannot control our growth, but we can obtain it.

How Can I Obtain Growth?

Ask yourself the question, “How can I obtain growth?”. That’s the first step in actually growing; when you seek help, knowledge or information. Next is figuring out some ways that will help you reach your goal, aka whatever area you are trying to grow or exceed in. For example, if you are trying to stop lying, you must first think of ways you can do that. How can I stop lying? Maybe I can tell the person what I am feeling in the moment as to why I lie. Or maybe you can figure out the exact reason you would rather lie than just tell the truth. It can be because of fear of losing something or someone, or it is just something you became accustom to. Was that clear? I hope so.

We grow when we accept things for what it is and try to do better. We grow when we understand that everything happens for a reason and sometimes that reason is there to benefit us. We grow when we take the initiative to be better people in general, not just for ourselves but for a wider audience. We grow when we allow God to take control of our lives.

Incorporating a growth mindset sets you apart from everyone else. It shows that you are willing and open to the betterment of your life. People who practice having a growth mindset embraces the challenges that come before them. They learn from their past and also from the criticism of others. They get inspired and jump for joy at the hands of success from others. This is what we must practice today.

So again I ask, is growth easily obtainable? Yes. Take the steps to grow better, glow better and flow better.

The steps are:

  • Seek help or information
  • Have a growth mindset, bring your thinking to a new level of where you want to be
  • Reflect + Understand what you may have done to get to that point
  • Make a plan/solution for exactly how you’re going to get there (wherever you want to be)

Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

My Denim Must Have List.

Today I wanted to share my favorite denim must haves with you. My thighs, my legs and my but LOVES these styles of denim and I’m pretty sure you guys will be able to relate.

Question:

What type of denim jeans do you favor the most for your body type?

If you’re unsure, that’s okay. It took me a while to figure out what denims were best for me until I started shopping for REAL by myself and getting to know what my personal style was. Check out my youtube video where I share in detail what denim jeans are must haves and maybe you might see one that you will fall in love with!

I share 10 pairs of denim jeans in this video! Please Subscribe!

3 Things T Keep In Mind When Shopping For Denim

  • Your Body Type
  • Color Of The Denim
  • What Type Of Denim You Want

If it’s one thing I’ve learned when choosing denim jeans now is to stick to what I know and love. One or two times I would try a new style to see if it adds some extra pizzazz to my body, but if not then that denim type is not for me! It’s so easy to see some cute jeans on someone else and then try to get them for yourself and it being such a fail! Guys, you know your body bette than anyone, so please choose accordingly! Also, there are so many different types of denim jeans to choose from so there must be a particular style you will fall in love with!

Different Basic Denim Styles:

  • Cropped
  • High Waist
  • Flare
  • Wide Leg
  • Skinny
  • Boot Cut
  • Low Waist
  • Ripped Hem

I hope this was helpful. Go watch the video for more deets! I love sharing these little style tips I’ve learned over the years. Is there anything in particular you guys want to see next? Leave it in the comments! Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

4 Years Later, Still Blogging.

Four years ago I started blogging and as I sit here and reflect on all I have learned, overcame, and accomplished I can only smile. By no means whatsoever do I consider myself to have reached the ‘ultimate blogger status’, because I am still learning new ways to grow and connect with my blog followers. If you are interested in becoming a blogger, I wrote a blog post with some tips to help you decide if it’s for you and what steps you should take first! The link to that post is right here: 5 Tips For Becoming A Blogger. I think every year I add under my belt one thing remains constant, and that thing I’m referring to is consistency. People will support you, but when they see that you are actually staying consistent in what you said you were going to do/or accomplish, it maes them more excited and intrigued to see what you have to offer.

It’s very easy to drown in this blogger/influencer pool. What I mean by that is, sometimes you feel like you are not putting out enough when you see bloggers with 10K followers and numerous partnerships with big time name brands. You begin to question what you’re doing wrong. That was my biggest downfall. I knew I could not belittle what I bring to the table by comparing my content with the bigger, more exposed bloggers. What I grew to understand was that everyone has a story of their journey and everyone has a time to shine. When I understood that, I began to flourish. Growing in numbers is not always gold, but growing and connecting is the GOAL. Recognizing that people love my content because they truly just knew my worth, allows me to reach that goal daily with no worries at all.

Honestly, four years went by so fast. I feel like I just launched my first blog post the other day. For those of you who want to know some things I advice from my own experience over the last 4 years, here they are:

  • Don’t be afraid to reach out the brands you absolutely love
  • Don’t let the number of followers you have determine your worth
  • Finding a niche is overrated, you can flourish and thrive in all the areas you love
  • Create content that sticks
  • Create content that is helpful
  • Create content that you know a lot of information on and it will benefit your audience
  • STEP OUT YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Here’s a list of blog posts I’ve created that can be helpful:

Some blogging tools I’ve been using:

  • Canva
  • UNUM
  • Lightroom
  • Instagram Analytics
  • Pinterest Analytics

I grew to know that it is important to look at your analytics to see your stats on whether your post did good, what time people are on to look at your posts, are they interacting and so on. I will definitely be doing another blog post where I discuss these things more in-depth with you guys.

Why am I still blogging?

Just in case you were wondering… I’m still blogging because I love it. It’s my platform, my space to create and share what I have to offer you. My goal this year is to become more engaged with my audience and reach more people from my platforms. One reason I started my youtube channel was to do just that. Reaching a bigger and different audience helps me get myself more out there. It is never easy starting on a new platform, out of your comfort zone, but what I have learned is that taking that leap is the scariest part. Everything after that is BETTER. If you have not checked out my youtube channel and subscribed, I encourage you to do so! I’m aiming to reach 500 subscribes before APRIL is over. Support me!

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As always, thank you for following me on my journey as a blogger. I hope this post was helpful and thanks so much for stopping by! See you on the next post! XO MJ!

The Wedding Party Favorites: The Little People.

My little squad

I think we can all agree that majority of the time, the little people get looked over. Future bride to be’s, choose them wisely and give the the attention, love and encouragement they deserve! It was really hard for me to choose (well not so hard haha) because I have so much of my kiddies that I hold near and dear to my heart, however a decision had to be made. Let me INTRODUCE my little squad!

  • FLOWERGIRLS: Mckenzie-Rae (My Mini Me), Kailin (My Babygirl), Makenzie (Duran’s Niece, who’s now my niece :) )
  • FLOWERBOY: Matthias (My Sis/Cousin Son)
  • RINGBEAR: Jai (Me & Duran’s Godson)

Flowergirls, flowerboy and ring bearer. I opt’d out of having a mini bride because I just did not see the need for one. I know a lot of you are wondering…a flower-BOY? Yes. A flowerboy. My little baby Matthias. I had to include him in my wedding somehow, so I decided that the best way was to have him walk down the aisle stunting with the flower girls (and he SHOWED OUT).

I mean, look at this face! The most adorable face. I call him “wild-child” because he’s so energetic. His momma will kill me when she reads this haha. When choosing each child who will be part of your wedding party, keep in mind if you don’t have a relationship with them, they would care less about what’s going on. If they know you, they’re more energetic, happy, excited and will give smiling faces like this for your photos! Key tip. Don’t just choose children to be fillers.

Remember They Are Just Kids…

And we know kids get shy right? My little niece as you can see was very shy, but it is understandable. A big crowd, strange faces, and then being the oldest she was suppose to walk alone so that’s A LOT! PRO TIP: Have practices regularly so that they get more comfortable with throwing the petals out the basket. I had practice with my little squad, but not everyone was able to make it, so that also ties in with the shyness.

My Jai Baby

Ringbearers are important people, probably the second most important! They walk in right before the bride to let everyone know that it is time for the bride to come in. My baby boy jai did such a great job. He was a bit serious because he was focus guys! His mother told me how excited he was to have this job and he took it 100% serious. I love him for that. How fly does he look though?

HOW BEAUTIFUL DO THEY LOOK!
Their dresses turned out to be so much more beautiful with it on them. I was literally in awe when I saw them.
Dress Details: BHLDN.com “Leandra Dress”
Pearl Headbands: Amazon
Pear Flower Baskets: Amazon
Shoes (not seen): I cannot remember, but when I do I’ll fill this in.

The wedding party (minus the parents…that post will come soon).

I loved my entire wedding squad, rather WE loved them all. They all played an important part in our special day. PRO TIP: Choose them wisely. Remember that the little people matter. Show love and appreciation to your squad. And most importantly just have a good time with them throughout your journey and on your wedding day! I hope this post was helpful!

Thanks for stopping by and reading! XO MJ.

5 Tips For Becoming A Blogger.

I contemplated a lot with what type of blog posts to put out during this time of ‘self-isolation, social distancing, quarantine & chill, working from home’ time period and what I thought to do was to write posts that will be somewhat helpful and posts that will bring some type of normality to what we all are facing right now. So today’s post I decided to share some helpful tips for people are interested in starting a blog.

I started blogging in April 2016 and I do not regret up to this day. When starting a blog there are things you need to think about before jumping into it.

FIRST, THINK ABOUT YOUR WHY FACTOR

NEXT, DECIDE ON A BLOG NAME/OR TITLE

  • Why do you want to be a blogger? This is a key question to ask yourself. If your number one response is to get “free stuff” then you are starting for the wrong reasons and you may not get very far. As a blogger, it means you have a responsibility to be truthful, vulnerable and relatable to your audience. Becoming a blogger for free items does not show that you fall into any of those three categories. So, think about why you want to be a blogger.
  • Do you have something valuable to offer others? Fashion, beauty, art, writing, etc. (some examples).
  • Do you want a platform to show your talents? Writing, teaching, DIYs, etc. Think long and hard about your reason and then move on to this next step.
  • What am I passionate about that I want to share with others? Cooking, fashion hacks, life tips, etc.
  • Think about the purpose of your blog, whether it’s for a hobby, business or a platform that is your own. This is important.

I thought this was the easiest part before I started, but in actuality guys, it’s the hardest part. It’s important to know what you want your blog title/name to be because you have to purchase your domain name (what people will type in to find you on the web). To make it easy, just think about who you are and what you want others to see when they hear your blog title/name or type in it on the web. That should do the trick! I chose “Keeping Up With MJ” because I wanted people to keep up with me and my adventures as a blogger. I wanted to get out my comfort zone and allow people to see my writing talents (at the time) and now everything else that I’ve added to my blog! 

THEN, DECIDE ON YOUR NICHE

AFTER, CHOOSE A BLOGGING PLATFORM

Keeping this part short and sweet, in my opinion, your niche is what you’re going to be focusing on. There are so many types of blogs out there and it is so important to make sure you don’t get “lost in the sauce” aka overwhelmed and undervalued. Figure out what your focus is. For me, I focus on writing (lifestyle, tips), fashion/style, beauty, and wedding. I evolved and expanded my niche over the years and I’m very much proud of it! You can and will be proud too once you figure out what your niche is!

You have to decide what blogging platform is best for you (and your pockets). When I started blogging, it was just a platform for my writing so I went with the free WordPress blogging platform. I didn’t know much at the time and I was just interested in getting myself out there. As I’m approaching 4 years next month, my thoughts and my content have evolved. I currently have WordPress Premium which allows me to do more, but I am thinking about switching to Squarespace later this year!

Some examples of blog platforms:

  • WordPress.com
  • WordPress.org
  • Blogger
  • Squarespace

LASTLY, CREATE CONTENT YOU LOVE

The most important tip to take away from this blog post, create what you love and keep it 100% YOU. It’s very easy to compare yourself to other bloggers, but remember that your audience love you and your work. The more authentic you are and real is the more they can relate and they will stick around. Add value to what you put out and it will show. When you add value to people’s lives, whether by educating them or entertaining them, they will keep coming back. Take time to plan out your blog posts and use your photos to tell your story (if that works for you).

I hope this post was helpful. In my next post, I will be sharing how you can build your social media presence (Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter etc.). I have some tips and tricks for you so make sure to tune in next time.

Stay updated by subscribing via email to my blog! Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

How To Stay Productive At Home.

Hi, my loves! How are you doing? As you know, I’m quarantined and I’m pretty sure you are too so by the title of this post you know what to expect. It is only day 3 and I had to get my life together and really figure out some ways to keep abreast it all. Things are definitely not normal, so in order to keep some normality in the air, I put together this post as a means of help for you guys and myself!

We all know to stay home is a dream come true, wake up when you want and some have the luxury to work from home. However, when you have no other choice but to stay home for your own safety it can get a bit frustrating.

I HAVE PUT TOGETHER A COUPLE WAYS YOU CAN STAY PRODUCTIVE AND BUSY WHILE STAYING AT HOME.

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  1. Make a schedule for yourself (and your kids/other families you take care of). Having a schedule can help you stay on track and it helps with holding yourself accountable for what you should be doing or should have done already.
  2. Make a list of things you need to complete. This one can be a bit flexible. Do you have work, like actually work to complete? If so, jot down what exactly needs to get done on that list. If you’re a blogger like me or a vlogger, making a list of what content you want to create fr the week (and weeks ahead) can be helpful and keep your audience still intact and in tune with what you have to offer. If you’re married or take care of someone at home, making a list of things that need to get done around the house can also take a weight off your shoulders and keep you organized.
  3. Make sure to keep your house clean. Everything just flows better when the home is clean, the sunlight shining in and it smells good. This didn’t have to be on the list, but as a bonus, someone may have needed to read that. Cleanliness is important for a clearer mind and a clearer space.
  4. Stay connected, virtually of course. I know, social distancing is full-effect, however, that doesn’t mean the phone does not work anymore. Call that friend you been meaning to call or family members and see how they are doing.
  5. Do something fun that you enjoy doing. Okay, this one has parts. Here are some things you can do. Some may be suitable more during this quarantine time, but all still work out.
  • Write in your journal (Think about some things you lost sight of, write down new ideas you may have, feelings, thoughts, just express yourself
  • Listen to music
  • Read a book that you love
  • Binge watch a tv show/watch a movie
  • Play board games
  • Play a puzzle game
  • Play a trivia game
  • Plan a movie night with your significant other/or family
  • Reorganize your room (any room you like)
  • Declutter your laptop (photos, videos, etc.)
  • Declutter your phone
  • Declutter your closet
  • Make a video (loosen up a bit)
  • Take a walk
  • Watch your favorite youtube videos (subscribe to my channel)
  • Check out your favorite bloggers’ website or vlogs

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6. TAKE A SELFCARE DAY

This includes taking the time to do something that brings you a bit of joy. Especially in a time of ‘panic’ like this, self-care activities can be helpful.

  • Give yourself a mini-pedi
  • Do some yoga or meditate
  • Read your favorite book
  • Eat your favorite comfort foods
  • Dress up (yes dress up if you want to)
  • Make some fun videos and post it
  • Relax, have a spa day at home (bubble baths)
  • Arts and craft

All of these and more can be super helpful in getting by at home during this quarantine. What are some other productive ways that may be helpful? List them in the comments.

Outfit details:

Jeans: Levi’s | Mules: Last season Zara mules or you can try Nordstrom | Basic cropped white tee: Uniqlo | Blazer: Husbae’s closet | Phone case bag: Urban Outfitters

Thanks for stopping by guys! XO MJ!

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