All posts tagged: change

protect your energy.

Hello loves and welcome to a new month, APRIL! So, I am so baffled as to how fast April snuck up on us, but such is life and time. It is going ever so quickly which only means that we have to stay caught up! In today’s post I am focusing on ways WE can protect our energy, because the Lord knows there is so much negativeness (as well as negative people) out there, sometimes clear as day, but other times in disguise. So get comfortable and enjoy this read. When I think of protecting my energy, what I honestly think of is simply protecting my space, what goes in and out of my ears, and what I allow to influence me. Anyone else agrees? I’m sure I’m not alone on this. This sort of reminds me of those times where your parents tell you to watch who keep as friends because sooner or later you’ll start acting like them or picking up their tendencies? I know I never use to really understand that because …

a new mindset.

The need for having a new mindset when handling situations is so important. Many times we find ourselves doing the same things over and over, hoping to have a different outcome, but.. HOW can you have a different outcome when repeatedly doing the same thing? Simple: You can’t. A new mindset will give you new results. I have came to the conclusion that a new mindset does this: 1. It encourages growth. 2. It allow a person to understand his/or her abilities can be developed through learning (from his/or her mistakes), effort (trying to change) and perseverance (not giving up until that change is done). What’s the point of having a “fixed” mindset and staying stagnant? It’s time to change “our” thoughts and watch the words that we say. Have you even accepted that something needs to be changed about your thinking? Majority of the time we do not. We tend to ignore and just say “yeah I have to change this about myself”, but never actually do it. Change requires action. (I’ve learned that …

stop playing it safe.

It’s a NEW DAY,  start it with a smile! Now is the time to stop playing it safe, go out there and try something different! No time for being afraid or worrying, Get up, go out there and be what you want to be. Experience what you always wanted to experience Face your fears and don’t look back. So many times we as human beings have fallen short of going after our dreams because of the fear of failure! It is time to change our way of thinking. It is time to stop being fearful and go out there and WIN. People may talk, but who cares? Failure is a scary thing and, It hits you hard with no warning. No heads up. Do not let that scare you. Do not let that deter you. Do not let that hold you back from trying. Not trying is an automatic failure. Giving something a shot is better than not trying at all. Tell yourself this today, this week, this month, this YEAR: Say it out loud …

let your walls down.

walls noun the outer layer of something that is hallow; build for protection, security. Everyone is afraid to get their walls broken down, whether they admit it to themselves or not. People who enter your life may come with a smile, but inside we can never really tell if their intentions are really pure and true so that is what makes it even harder to let them in. This post is to encourage you, whoever YOU are that it is okay for you to let your guards down. Here is why: EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. Just because Harry or Suzy broke your heart does not mean that the next person that comes along will. Do not harden your heart or in other words, do not build your walls so high that no one else can climb over it. TAKE A CHANCE! It’s okay to be shy about it. It’s definitely okay to be a little closed off, but not too much to the point where the person feels like they can’t get to know you. BE …

you are enough.

You messed up, you failed, you’re not proud of it, but your journey is not over. They mistreated you, made fun of the person you used to be without seeing the person you would become…but your journey isn’t over. You are enough. Don’t let what people say deter you from fulfilling your dreams, Don’t let them get the benefit of the doubt, No weapons formed, shall prosper “NO”! Who said you needed someone else’s approval or permission? Nobody has a manual for having a ‘perfect life’ View everything as an opportunity, don’t let it pass you by. Take a chance, take risks, make your own rules for a change. Others may try to make you feel lesser than who you are, Don’t give them the satisfaction. Anyone who puts someone else down feels worthless themselves! Speak up sometimes, Fight back with kind words. You will always be enough, Once you know that, no one can ever tell you you’re not. Don’t ever change that for anyone. If a person can’t see how incredible you are, …

reality check.

Time to give ourselves a reality check! So many times we take life for granted. Read this, it will definitely change how you approach life! Dear ME or Whomever may be reading this, Stop rushing. Stop fussing. Stop worrying. Stop complaining. Stop comparing. Stop crying. Just stop for one second, clear your mind for a minute, and just relax. Think instead of doing. What would the world be like if everyone just thought before they spoke? Say something nice instead of something cruel. What if they actually used their brain cells before making a decision? You are so focused on things that are not good for you that you allow great opportunities to pass you by. Time, yeah we have it, but then again we don’t. Focus less on yourself sometimes. Help someone else for a change instead of showing off all the glamorous things you have that another person does not have. There is more to life that the material things, much more to live for than we give our attention to! You can …

try new things.

Why are people so afraid to step out their comfort zones and try new things? Nothing is wrong with doing something out of your element, that is the beauty of life. Life is full of risk taking, messing up & starting all over again. This post I will give some tips on how to go about trying new things. So, you want to do something new, but you are afraid of what others might think of you. First things first: Forget them! People will try to stop you from experiencing things because they themselves are afraid too. If you want to be risky, go ahead. If you want to find love, go ahead. People might say everything in the books to deter you, but go ahead anyway! Find what you need, do what YOU want, and find your own happiness. You have to know what risks are worth taking though. Don’t try to do everything just because you think it might make you look cool or just because it makes you feel good. That is …

acceptance.

First rule, accept who you are. All of you. Not everyone will understand who you are, Not everyone will accept who you are, but once you accept yourself and all your flaws what people say would not affect you. Sometimes it is hard to ignore the noise, Sometimes it is heartbreaking to hear what they think of you, but just remember that what you think of you is most important. Understand yourself, Put the pieces of your life together & you will soon realize one day that God had a purpose for you from day one. As hard as that is to fathom, it is the truth. Small minds cannot accept things that are different and they cannot see what true beauty is. There will be times that you might feel down because you want people to see you how you see yourself, There will be times when you will feel like giving up, do not. Be yourself. Love yourself. *Remember, God loves you, he cares, he hears and he never disappoints. (Acceptance Part 1.)

5 ways to get over disappointment.

To disappoint is defined as, “To defeat the fulfillment of hopes, plans etc.” Disappointment happens in many forms, either someone can be disappointed in you or vice versa. The question comes when we have to ask ourselves what are we going to do about the situation, how can we deal with the feeling and make things better? Well, first thing you need to do is figure out what you might have done to make someone feel like we have disappointed them. Investigate and face the situation head on. Don’t stay stagnant and not take action or else you are going to make worse of a bad situation. You must accept and take responsibility for what you have done in order to move on. Sometimes we make mistakes because we are humans, but that is all a part of the process. Once we truly accept our wrong we can successfully move forward. Secondly, we have to focus on ourselves (yes we). What do we really want? What do I want to change? We must stop pitying …

enough is enough.

When is it okay to say “enough is enough”? So many times we are put in situations that we never saw ourselves being in. We put down ourselves because we haven’t lived up to the expectations of human beings who think that they have the right to judge us. When is it okay to say it? Call quits to the negativity. People never have the decency to check themselves, but think it’s okay to check you. Since when it is okay to make someone else feel any less than who they are? I’m sorry, I forgot God died and made you the ‘oh so righteous judge’! When is it okay to just say it to them? Give them a piece of your mind. Tell the haters to fall back, block out the fake preachers and “never sinned in their life” humans, stomp out the greedy and make way for the wicked to condemn themselves. When is it that great day when it is okay to tell off the people whose motives are unrighteous and filthy? …

i got a feeling.

It’s up to you on how you cope with something that is completely out of your control. You are a beautiful plant seed, if you don’t care for, nurture, and nourish yourself you will never blossom. Don’t tell God how big your problems are, tell your problems how big your God is. It’s not the complexion of your skin, it’s the inner soul of you, Do not let the dogs under the house get to you, Remember how they got there, remember who put them there. Never forget dogs take command, and you are no dog. Let your smile tell your story. The ball will not always be in your court, but if you miss a hoop it’s okay to try again. Figure it out, figure out how to stay positive Take some time, breathe. All we ever needed was hope, hope that one day things will get better in our lives. Never stop believing in you, in your dreams. Fall sometimes. Understand what rock bottom feels like so when you get to be sky …

the “getting to know yourself” checklist.

What makes you you? Ever sat down and asked yourself that question? I have. You will be surprised at what you discover about yourself when you actually sit and just think. Understanding what you like from what you don’t, figuring out what makes you happy from what makes you upset, accepting all your flaws and all, these are the things that YOU should be worrying about. Trying to tell someone else about what you dislike about them or what they should change, what that reflects sometimes is just how uncomfortable you are with yourself. Get to know yourself. Do not allow negative people to tell you what to do about you. A person who is always itching to give you advice…watch out for those types of people. They are a perfect example of someone who is unhappy with who they are. Never allow anyone, especially the opposite sex to define you. Be your own definition of yourself. In case you forgot and needed a wake up call… you are the only you in this world, …