Self-Reflect + Redirect.

Happy New Month my loves! December has always been one of my favorite months for 3 reasons: my dad’s birthday month, the month before my birthday, and the month of reflection on all I’ve accomplished, lost, gained and so much more. What does December mean to you?

This post is a bit different. I want you to actually read these questions and think about them. You don’t have to answer in the comments, but I do want you to answer them for yourself, maybe in a journal or in your mind. You can save this template, pin it to Pinterest or share it on your social accounts so others can also complete it. I’ve always wanted to create something like this because I know it can be so helpful. Sometimes we may think we haven’t done anything, but when we take the time to reflect + jot things down, it leaves us feeling way better. Visuals are important. It’s more attention-grabbing, engaging, more flexible than verbal+mental talks, and it lets you see your message more directly. So with that being said my loves, check out my self-reflection template & answer sheet! Hope it’s helpful.

Self-Reflection Questionnaire Template + Answer Sheet

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Self-Reflect + Redirect.

We all know how important self-reflection is right? The benefits are immense. We see what we’ve been lacking and we also get to see our growths. As human beings, the majority of the time we just focus on our lows vs our grows which is not healthy. That’s why I want you to redirect that bad energy elsewhere and throw it in the garbage. Redirect your mind to positive thoughts like what you want to accomplish in the upcoming year or what you can do to make a difference in someone else’s life. Yes, you have accomplishments (as well as losses), but how can you use that and/or even your platform to do better/impact the world. If you do not remember anything from this post, please remember this… When you die, what are you going to be remembered for doing? Is it something memorable? Influential? Impactful? Did you help anyone or were you too caught up in building your own life that you neglected to help build up someone else as well?

Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

 

 

Grow before you Glow.

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Pro tip: Surround yourself with people who get you.

The year is almost over and I am going full throttle when it comes to being intentional. I’ve learned a lot about myself this year and I’m pretty sure you have too! My advice to you all is this: “Do not ever be afraid to let go or cut off the “split ends” aka the toxic, negative, bitter people you have lingering around in your life.” Listen, if they are not for you, they’re against you and you should not have to second guess that about a person. It may will can hurt you at first (a bit), but when as change comes along, growth does too.

Growing comes before the GLOW

It took me a while to understand this concept. I usually just want to glow first and grow later on, but that’s not how it works in this thing called life. The older we get, the more decisions we have to make for the betterment of ourselves. A few things this year has taught me are as follows:

  1. Don’t accept nonsense from anyone. It doesn’t matter who it is. Know your worth +add tax and MORE on top of that. That goes for friends, family, and BRANDS because some brands want you to work for free and Free.99 ain’t paying the bills boo.
  2. Learn and grow. Learn from past situations and don’t repeat them. Grow from those situations so you can help someone in the future.
  3. The subtle art of saying NO. The art of not giving a crap and saying no, are my two favorite types of art. Saying no has so many benefits for your mental health and for your sanity. Trust me, I’m a person who use to feel super guilty when saying no to people because I did not want them to feel bad, however, I was the one always feeling bad in the end. Stop burying yourself for other humans. Soon you won’t be able to breathe.
  4. GLOW on. What do I mean by glow on? Well, you’ve already learned from mistakes, grew from them, now you have to glow. Flourish in your blessings. Stop feeling sorry for the people who aren’t. Everyone has their own time to shine. There’s room for all of us. Glow because you worked hard for it. Glow because you deserve it. Glow because you took care of everyone else, now it’s time to take care of you now.

** Outfits Details: Slip Dress- ZARA, Snake Print Top- Boohoo, Snake Skin Bag-ZARA, Booties-Boohoo, Lippie-The Lip Bar

I hope you grow and glow this week. I sure am! Thanks for stopping by! XO MJ.

All Photos By Duran Andrae

Love Undone.

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Hello my loves, welcome back! So…great news. Today makes ONE MONTH since my wedding day, #TheMillerLove and I am in disbelief because time has been flying! I decided to just fill you guys in on how it has been going and a few extras. Keep reading, a lot of mushy lovey-dovey stuff ahead. Good luck!

What loving someone feels like…

It feels like joy on a hot summer day, with the sun shining down on your skin and the cool breeze blowing through your hair.

It feels like comfort and security and confidence when trouble arises.

It feels like bravery in the face of weapons formed against you, in the form of hate.

It feels like soft arms wrapped around your body telling you that everything will be fine because “they got you”.

It feels like God’s love shining through in human form.

It feels like lots of cuddles in the middle of the night and goodnight kisses.

It feels like not wanting to say goodbye, even though we’d see each other in a couple hours.

What loving someone looks like…

It looks like hands holding on to each other, ever so tightly,

It looks like arguments over little things but making up the next minute because it’s not worth it.

It looks like races to the bathroom, ‘double or nothing’ for the loser.

It looks like me winning ‘rock, paper, scissors’ to see who’s turn it is to turn off the lights at nighttime.

It looks like waking up early and letting the next person sleep a little while longer while you make breakfast.

It looks like phone calls on breaks just because you miss the other person and want to hear their voice.

It looks like working extra hours so that you both are living comfortably.

It looks like laughter and dance sessions around the house just because that’s what you both enjoy doing. (Dedicated to my husbae)

Loving someone else fully, is scary for some, especially if you’re afraid of being extremely vulnerable or of getting hurt because you’ve been hurt before. However, love is an amazing thing and I’ll always recommend extending your love to someone other than yourself. Most people fear vulnerability because of the stigma behind it, but for me being vulnerable isn’t a bad thing (check out this post here). I have always been a ‘sucker for love’ not only because it’s a beautiful thing, but because of the strength it takes to keep loving someone else, “in spite of”. As I reflect on my one month wedding anniversary, I’m in complete awe because I am genuinely in love with my husband and I’m so happy. Aside from the “Aww’s” and “You guys are so cute” in reality we are human beings just like you. We are imperfectly perfect and I’m okay with that. We argue over stupid stuff, but in the end, we try to understand each other’s point of view and learn and grow. That is not an easy task, but we have made a vow to not give up on each other because of love. *And honestly the make-ups are better than break-ups haha.

I know a lot of you are wondering and have asked me “how’s the married life going?”, so I’m here to fill you guys in (hopefully). Living with your better half is completely different from living with siblings/parents. You have to get used to doing things a certain way that is suitable for both of you. It has taught me how to share. Yes, as small as that is, I have been mastering the art of sharing (I can’t speak for Husbae though, he’s still learning haha). I have seen more of a side of my husbae that feeds my mind, body, and soul. He makes me feel like my worries are no more. It is important for newlyweds to not go into marriages solely expecting too much from their mates and remember that ultimately (and firstly) God should be the sole person we rely on for everything. We are growing with each other daily and relearning how to “not sweat the little stuff”. My one-month takeaway is that our love is undone, meaning it is still growing, still blooming and it is far from being done. I look forward to our love lasting years and years to come and never dying.

If you made it to the end, I applaud you. Be sure to check out my other wedding posts HERE & HEREHERE & HERE if you haven’t!

Keep up with me on my socials! I follow back!

As always…Thanks for stopping by! xoxo MJ.

Loving Yourself: The Importance.

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**All images were taken by Duran Andrae. // trousers-zara

I previously broke the internet with the news of my upcoming nuptials. *Breathe*. I know you are all still recovering (and if you haven’t read it and see the photos, click here and here and here to see more), but I wanted to share this post today about self-love, with hopes that it may help someone this week!

Judging by the title…I know a bit cliché and all, but completely necessary + relevant. I never understood the importance of loving myself and self-acceptance so much til my 20s if I’m keeping it all the way real. I mean, I always loved myself, but now I LOVE LOVE myself y’all! I’ve learned over the years that you cannot give love without having love, that applies to anyone you come into contact with. I feel like a love guru right now…FAR FROM IT THOUGH, however, I got some wisdom coming.

Keep reading.

There will always be chitter-chatter about your life, whether from friends, family members, church folk, co-workers…even the phonies pretending to be your friend. My advice, forget them. Put your hater-shades on and do you. Yikes. That was a bit harsh, let me try again. Where we go wrong is allowing those voices and opinions to influence how we move and how we do things. Sometimes we even feel obligated and tell ourselves they have our ‘best interest at heart’ so we have to listen and follow. WRONG WRONG WRONG! “Issa whole LIE”. Do not let your mind deceive you. Do not let your “gut feeling” trick you. Do not let your mind betray you. Instead, level up. How to level up? Take control…like full control and direction of where and what you will do next. Practice taking action vs. just saying something and not actually following through with it.

Not for nothing, but understanding who you are and your boundaries allow you to be free. Yes, free. When you understand how much you will tolerate and what you have to let go to keep your stress levels down, then and only then will you be free. That type of freedom is how you show yourself, love.

It is so important to love yourself FIRST. Here comes some relationship advice… As I stated earlier, you cannot give love without loving yourself or even having love to give. In order for me to open up completely to my other half now, I had to get comfortable with myself (that includes my whole self, not just the parts I want him to see or get to know). It was really hard at first, I can’t lie to y’all. When we first dating I was super shy and always embarrassed because I wanted him to see my “perfect” side and not my “imperfections”, which was so silly. As time progressed I had to understand that those imperfections made me who I am and if I couldn’t accept them, and he was more than willing to (he was always open and patient with me), then I shouldn’t have to hold back. Letting go of that helped me love myself more, leaving more room for me to give more love to him.

My point is this, you have to love every part of you. However God made you, he did it on purpose. No matter what anyone else thinks, or says, or feel it doesn’t define who you are. If you remember one thing from this post, please let it be to never let anyone dictate your moves and your life. You are in control. Embrace yourself, your strength and your self-love. Cheers to that!

See Things Clearer.

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How clear are you seeing things? So many times we take for granted the minor things that we have and we don’t realize it until it is taken away from us or not available to us. You guys know I keep it real with you guys right, so this is a perfect example. Somehow the handle of my toilet broke off weeks ago (it’s obviously fixed now haha), still baffled as to how it occurred, but it did. When I tell you it was so annoying having to manually go into the back tank and pull a lever to flush the toilet…do not get me started. I never took that handle for granted when it got fixed! So many times we get comfortable because things are available to us, but how would we react if the simple pleasures of life were to be taken away from us? Would we get upset, throw a tantrum, go crazy?

How would you react if the thing you loved most was not available to you? Think about it.

I’m not perfect. As usual, I speak to myself also when I write my posts. Every single day I wake up I sit on my bed and have these one-to-ones with God. It truly is a blessing to wake up. On my insta-story the other day I shared this:

Thankful for another day. Thankful for my eyes to see, my ears to hear, my mouth to speak/eat, my legs to walk, my hands to write/touch. Thankful for my circle of love + support. Thankful for seen and unseen blessings.

I have come to the point in my life where I see things for what they are. God blesses, God restores and God removes– people and things in our lives. I am so thankful for the situations God has taken me through because without them I would never learn and know how to deal with similar ones in the future. Everything that happens in our lives is meant to happen that way for our benefit. Do not forget that. Be thankful regardless of the outcome.

What are you thankful for? Is it materialistic? Or is it something that makes you whole?

Thankful vs. Grateful.

Thankful is an instant feeling of gratitude for what someone has done for you.

Gratefulness comes from a deeper part of your soul. A sense of want to do something more for what that person has done for you.

Both are important. Both should be cherished, used, and appreciated.

This week do yourself a favor and be thankful for what you have, show someone love unexpectedly, do acts of kindness, lend a helping hand and just remember that life is a gift that should be cherished. It’s a gift that keeps on giving.

Thanks for stopping by. xoxo MJ.

Bringing the heat.

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Cheers to reaching 2019 in one piece. First post of the year! WOW. Y’all know 2018 was a good year for me, I graduated, traveled, fell deeper in love with God (and my boo), leveled up in jobs, almost at my career goal, I exceeded my BLOG GOAL OF 1000+ blog followers/subscribers, and most importantly all my family is blessed also. I mean so much more blessings but you know can’t list them all. 2019, I expect nothing LESS than the BEST and of course I’m bringing the heat all year! My two words for this year is STRENGTH & COURAGE

Strength allows you to show yourself how far you can actually go. It involves less self-doubt and more of a drive to be your best self. Courage says, “yes I may be a bit nervous or even afraid, but that’s not going to stop me!” Courage gives you the encouragement you need to never stop believing in all that potential you attain inside of you. So be my guess and adopt these two words and make it apart of your day to day this year.

[Stay tuned for some heat at the end of the post!]

Just WIN.

The year just started, but I already have some advice to share. People will try to sabotage you because they cannot stand to see you win, but do yourself a favor and WIN ANYWAY. Don’t allow people to get the upper hand on you this year. I want you to remember that there are always many outcomes that can come out of one thing. In the end, you decide if it will be good or bad. Remember that this year! 

B i r t h d a y  S h o o t 

My style literally is so effortless. I say that in the least cocky way. I usually figure it out the day of or in my head…and it always works. Blessing? Yes. Feeling a bit sassy right now because the devil really tried my this year for my birthday, but thankfully God sustained me and kept me on 100. I wanted to do this post as a style post and photo diary of my bday shoot because I have so many photos, but you guys know I had to give some encouragement first! 

Photo Diary #extraall2019

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disclaimer: #notaMODEL

 

 

[All Photo/Video Cred: @duranandrae]

Deets on the look: fur coat- boohoo, sequin jumpsuit & fur bag- forever 21, shoes- public desire, lip gloss- fenty, hair- ME

Thanks for stopping by! xoxo MJ.

Positivity wins every time​.

Hello loves, stepping into a new week like… 

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Photos by Duran Andrae (@duranandrae on IG)

Let’s start it off with some positivity.

Today’s post literally popped in my mind and I decided to just go with it. Since becoming a blogger I have been learning myself more and also been trying to be vulnerable more in my daily lifestyle. I’ve written a previous post called Reclaiming The Word Vulnerable, where I discuss the pros of vulnerability and how in some ways it is not such a terrible thing. Go take a read after if you have time, but today I just wanted to share some positiveness with you guys because there are so many things to be thankful for. With all the shootings, killings and overall horror going on in the world today, it is prevalent to keep our heads up and our hearts set on God!

First of all, celebrate yourself. Celebrate your ups AND your downs. Yes, I wrote your downs too. Many people go through situations that may not have been the best, grow from it and move on. In my opinion, I think you WE need to look back at that situation and see it as something that made us get better, push harder, fight the fight and walk the walk. Celebrating your downs gives off a liberating feeling of “YOU KNOW WHAT I FAILED, BUT IT HAPPENED FOR A REASON.” Think about it. The job you did not get, the girlfriend/boyfriend who was no good, the friend who was fake, the teacher who doubted you, the class you failed, the child who disrespected you, the boss who did you wrong, the co-worker that schemes on your success, the manager who wants to sabotage your job, the church memeber who lied on you etc., all the things that happened was for your good. Do not dwell on it or let it consume you.

MAKE LEMONADE. Period.

Second thing, RE-EVALUATE yourself. See what you can brush up on and make better. Is your attitude positive or negative? Are you trying as hard as you can to get what you want or are you lazy? What excuses have you made lately to cover up what needs to get done? (That question just hit me in the face y’all, because I have made soooooo many excuses lately to not do stuff!) Are you stagnant? Make MONEY MOVES. PERIOD. We are hindering ourselves from success. Sometimes we need to hear it from someone else for it to resonate in our minds and that’s fine. Opportunities don’t come to those who just sit around and are not working, GET UP! Re-evaluate your life and do whatever necessary to get where you want to be.

Be your best, even in your hardest times. As I’ve written before in my previous post Your Season Is Coming, remember that everything takes time. Don’t get discouraged and do not let negative thoughts consume your mind.

Try to be optimistic every day. Positivity gives you an open mindset. “Being positive does not mean that you ignore life’s less pleasant situations, but it means that you are taking a stand to approach those situations in a more productive way”. That was a deep quote! Something as simple as smiling can release the endorphins in your brain to make you feel a bit happier. You are the captain of your own ship when you choose how you respond to other people’s MESS. I’m preaching to myself right now because I have not mastered this yet. I still answer people based on my feelings at the moment, without taking a deep breath and staying calm. This is hard, but it would be such a rewarding thing to master. So today I encourage you (and myself) to take time to be positive and think before we speak.

LASTLY remember this, as Denzel Washington said “Fail big. To get something you never had you have to do something you never did. Take risks, keep striving never give up…fall down 7 times and get up 8. If you don’t fail you’re not even trying. FAIL BIG, you will lose. embarrass yourself, you will SUCK at something.” Do what you love and what you’re passionate about!

Outfit details: Top- ASOS, Jeans- H&M, Shoes- STEVE MADDEN, Bag- ALI-EXPRESS

Remember that positivity wins every single time.

Thank you for stopping by,

Enjoy your week, xoxo MJ.

what’s next?

Humans have a tendency of wanting to know what’s going on, ALL THE TIME! Like 24/7, no breaks, no heads up, no chill, no nothing its bananas.
That’s cool, but give me a break. Please.

[Real. Raw. Respect.]

01. Real.

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I am a new college graduate, which means I’m supposed to have my life figured out already, 10,000 job offers on the table or a secured job stacked away, a family, a house, a baby, a glow of success, money stashed, ideas planned, a life plan, health insurance, life insurance, happiness, no fears, no doubts, and most importantly ANSWERS to everyone’s questions on MY LIFE 🙂. Sounds familiar? Is that real enough for ya? I hope it was because I was being super sarcastic. Keeping it 1000% REAL, we do not like being asked: “WHAT’S NEXT?” It literally grinds our gears. What’s real is that sometimes we do not have all the answers you are looking for and to be honest THAT’S OKAY.

Can we recuperate from this HUGE accomplishment?
Can we BASK in our moment…even if it’s ONE WEEK POST-GRADUATION? ONE MONTH POST-GRADUATION? ONE YEAR POST-GRADUATION?
Can we just LIVE OUR BEST LIVES?
I mean we literally just walked across the stage and collected our diplomas. We did not expect to be bombarded with questions as soon as we stepped off the stage. WOW. Can we breathe?

02. Raw.

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Let people underestimate you. To be honest, you should be honored when someone underestimates you because you are now in control! I read somewhere once that “Being underestimated is one of the biggest competitive advantages you can have. Embrace it.” How deep and true is that statement? You have the upper hand because 1. you know exactly what you are capable of doing and 2. you can take advantage of that opportunity and take over the world!

Prove people wrong. Here’s my story that I rarely discuss: When I began my education program, my advisor for the department was not supportive of me. She did not think I could have the “perfect grades” and maintain those grades throughout the program all because of the previous semester (while I was still a math major), I got my first F in a course (which brought my whole GPA down). My first feelings were to report her, then to say some stuff that would be out of character but instead, the chair-person got involved. He was very supportive and gave me all the encouragement I needed. He looked at all my previous grades, not just the one F I received previously and knew I was a smart girl with a bright future. He told her to sign me up for the courses and give me a chance. Let’s say I got all A’s that semester! And proved her wrong. I continued to prove her wrong every semester after that. As an education major you cannot have a GPA under a 3.5 or else you would get kicked out the program however, I managed to sustain that GPA throughout everything.
Fun fact: I became super close with her to the point where my last semester she gave me so much well wishes and told me I would be a great teacher in the future. Isn’t life crazy? You never know what the outcome will be.

03. Respect.

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Let me respect the process. Understand that people will not always believe in you. They would say whatever it takes to break you and make you feel lesser than you are. I can recall situations in college where some of my professors were not encouraging at all and others who were just so inspiring and wanted me to succeed. Those are the types of qualities I looked for in my teachers and the qualities I aspire to have in my classroom in the future.

As a young adult it is prevalent to develop an attitude that when others see you, they know you have a purpose. It is in those craziest moments of your life where you have to show people who you really are, by maintaining a good attitude and a positive spirit. Don’t let people make you sweat, instead make them sweat by your abilities, qualities, smile, personality and overall lifestyle…regardless of how cruel they are. It’s not always easy, but it’s always a satisfying feeling in the end. This is something I truly hope to adopt in every single situation, where it will become the norm for me!

SOOO WHAT’S NEXT? Life. New Beginnings. & God leading the way!

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All photos were taken by Duran M, @DuranAndrae (on IG).

Thanks for stopping by! xoxo MJ.

choices and consequences.

Hello friends!

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I’m happy to be able to see a new day, a new opportunity to determine my future, a new chance at life. Today’s post stems from a dream I had about how one decision can ruin your entire life. I don’t usually share my dreams a lot, but this one is necessary and it taught me so much and it changed my view on life. ACTUAL LIFE AND FREEDOM. Stay tuned until the end, this is an important read.

Choose YOU.

Sometimes we find ourselves in situations and we think back like “how did I get here?” Sometimes we even find ourselves so deep that we feel like we cannot come out, so we say “it is what it is”. I have seen myself do this way too many times. Honestly, that is the mindset a lot of people out there have and that is why they are where they are right now.

My dream.

I had a dream last night, that has really changed my whole entire mindset. In my dream I was in a school setting, regular day talking to my friends. It so happened that this girl and I got into a heated discussion. She said something, then I did and so on and so forth. She then went on to saying something about my mother and everyone knows when you talk about people’s mother you crossed the line! Something like the point of no return…I then proceeded to get up out my seat towards her and I pushed her chair. Hard enough so that she then fell to the floor and I walked out the classroom steaming mad. Seems like a regular school altercation right? Do you remember something like this occurring in your childhood days, like something small, seemingly harmless than you did OUT OF ANGER? Think about it.

This dream went further… As I sat outside on the steps trying to calm down, two of my friends came running towards me. I then gave them my attention, coming to find out that the girl who’s chair I pushed, fell head first and was basically having some type of seizure. I began to panic. I began to think of all the worse outcomes. I proceeded to go back upstairs, to then have someone tell me that she was not breathing. The girl was dead. I do not recall any teachers being present, but I began to freak out.

I began to think of my future being crumbled. I instantly wanted my mother. Isn’t it crazy how it’s when we find ourselves in the toughest of situations, we want our parents first? Does not matter the age. I began to think of how my name would be messed up in the court system and how I would be seen/and labeled as a murderer for something so small that turned so big. Imagine the consequences I would face, not ever seeing my loved ones again “freely”. The future I set for myself, everything I worked for would never be a reality because of that one decision to react to what an irrelevant girl said about my mother. 

The takeback lesson

This is the life of someone every day. Children who end up in juvie, men/woman who go to prison based on one bad choice they made. No one ever wakes up thinking that’s their last day of freedom.

We cannot let ourselves get to the point of anger and rage that we act on those emotions in a situation where we could just walk away or simply ignore someone. People are faced with real life punishments today because they acted on impulse, not knowing that the outcome would be fatal and detrimental. Today I just want you to remember that life is serious. Take it seriously. Way out all options before making any decision. You work hard to get where you are…and even harder for where you want to be. Do not let one bad decision ruin your entire life.

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Remember:
You control your destiny. Choose the right path.
Words CANNOT hurt you, nor does it define you. Ignore them.
God can give you the strength to resist the urge of responding.
Think before you act.

– “Anger does not solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything.”

Thanks for stopping by! xoxo MJ.

 

maintain a growth mindset.

Happy Tuesday my lovely readers!

Processed with VSCO with v5 presetI do hope you are haven g a great week like I am. Today’s post encourages us to adopt, maintain and embrace a growth mindset. Some of you are probably like I have a growth mindset, but do you? Are you really join g through situations expecting positive outcomes and not getting them BUT still maintaining a positive attitude? Stick around as I go further…

I first learned about growth mindsets and fixed mindsets last semester through my student teaching experience from the principal of the school. She encouraged us teachers, leaders and role models to always strive to have growth mindsets because of the numerous benefits it not only offered ourselves, but the people (and students) around us. This left a long lasting impression on me.

What is a growth mindset?

In the simplest of terms, a growth mindset is open to change. Growth mindsets believe that challenges only produces growth.

A person with a growth mindset says:

“I can… improve, do it, be better if I tired harder”.

“I will keep pushing even when I want to throw the towel in.”

“I am not like that person, but I can improve myself in a positive way that benefits me.”

“Mistakes are only minor in the bigger picture of success.”

“I will try new things, even if it scares me.”

Positiveness radiates off of a person with a growth mindset, but that does not mean its super easy. It becomes challenging, but they keep going. I have been listening and reading a lot of inspirational things lately that have encouraged me to be a better person. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and I begin to freak out, but there are so much different ways to encourage ourselves rather than be in the dumps about everything that have not been “good” in our lives.

Carol Dweck, wrote a book called “Mindset is the new psychology of success” and I’ve read an exert online briefly that gave me such motivation to always have a growth mindset, rather than a fixed mindset. According to her book, people who have a fixed mindset avoid failure because losing or underperforming weakens his/or her confidence. WHAT? In other words a person with a fixed mindset rather GIVE UP BEFORE TRYING. Is that a mindset that you see yourself having sometimes? Do you often find yourself seeking validation from others? To be honest, we all have been guilty of this at least once in our lives. That is even more of a reason why it is okay to change our mindsets now.

Processed with VSCO with v5 presetI encourage us all to adopt the growth mindset, only if you want to see yourself move above the place or space you are in currently. God allows us to have certain experiences for our own good. We will not always see it instantly, but later down the line when we look back we then realize that it was because of the positive “growth” mindset we were able to make it through.

My life is not perfect. I’m pretty sure yours isn’t either, but we have so much opportunities now to change that. There are so many outlets that can help us become better than we are now. Often times we make excuses for why we have not done something we were suppose to do long ago, BUT it is never too late to keep striving. This week I made it my duty to change my mindset and get things done. I encourage you to do the same.

Here are some quick tips to maintaining a mindset:

  • Replace the word failing with learning. (The benefits of doing this is endless!)
  • Surround yourself with people who want to succeed, people who persevere rather than give up. (Let them go!)
  • Reflect on who you are and want to become.
  • Stop seeking approval from nobodies or think they are somebodies!

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“Strive for progress, not perfection.”

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If you have suggestions on other ways to stay on the path of a growth mindset, let me know in the comments your thoughts!

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