All posts tagged: grow

Self-Reflect + Redirect.

Happy New Month my loves! December has always been one of my favorite months for 3 reasons: my dad’s birthday month, the month before my birthday, and the month of reflection on all I’ve accomplished, lost, gained and so much more. What does December mean to you? This post is a bit different. I want you to actually read these questions and think about them. You don’t have to answer in the comments, but I do want you to answer them for yourself, maybe in a journal or in your mind. You can save this template, pin it to Pinterest or share it on your social accounts so others can also complete it. I’ve always wanted to create something like this because I know it can be so helpful. Sometimes we may think we haven’t done anything, but when we take the time to reflect + jot things down, it leaves us feeling way better. Visuals are important. It’s more attention-grabbing, engaging, more flexible than verbal+mental talks, and it lets you see your message more …

Grow before you Glow.

Pro tip: Surround yourself with people who get you. The year is almost over and I am going full throttle when it comes to being intentional. I’ve learned a lot about myself this year and I’m pretty sure you have too! My advice to you all is this: “Do not ever be afraid to let go or cut off the “split ends” aka the toxic, negative, bitter people you have lingering around in your life.” Listen, if they are not for you, they’re against you and you should not have to second guess that about a person. It may will can hurt you at first (a bit), but when as change comes along, growth does too. Growing comes before the GLOW It took me a while to understand this concept. I usually just want to glow first and grow later on, but that’s not how it works in this thing called life. The older we get, the more decisions we have to make for the betterment of ourselves. A few things this year has taught me are as …

Love Undone.

Hello my loves, welcome back! So…great news. Today makes ONE MONTH since my wedding day, #TheMillerLove and I am in disbelief because time has been flying! I decided to just fill you guys in on how it has been going and a few extras. Keep reading, a lot of mushy lovey-dovey stuff ahead. Good luck! What loving someone feels like… It feels like joy on a hot summer day, with the sun shining down on your skin and the cool breeze blowing through your hair. It feels like comfort and security and confidence when trouble arises. It feels like bravery in the face of weapons formed against you, in the form of hate. It feels like soft arms wrapped around your body telling you that everything will be fine because “they got you”. It feels like God’s love shining through in human form. It feels like lots of cuddles in the middle of the night and goodnight kisses. It feels like not wanting to say goodbye, even though we’d see each other in a couple …

Loving Yourself: The Importance.

**All images were taken by Duran Andrae. // trousers-zara I previously broke the internet with the news of my upcoming nuptials. *Breathe*. I know you are all still recovering (and if you haven’t read it and see the photos, click here and here and here to see more), but I wanted to share this post today about self-love, with hopes that it may help someone this week! Judging by the title…I know a bit cliché and all, but completely necessary + relevant. I never understood the importance of loving myself and self-acceptance so much til my 20s if I’m keeping it all the way real. I mean, I always loved myself, but now I LOVE LOVE myself y’all! I’ve learned over the years that you cannot give love without having love, that applies to anyone you come into contact with. I feel like a love guru right now…FAR FROM IT THOUGH, however, I got some wisdom coming. Keep reading. There will always be chitter-chatter about your life, whether from friends, family members, church folk, co-workers…even the phonies …

See Things Clearer.

How clear are you seeing things? So many times we take for granted the minor things that we have and we don’t realize it until it is taken away from us or not available to us. You guys know I keep it real with you guys right, so this is a perfect example. Somehow the handle of my toilet broke off weeks ago (it’s obviously fixed now haha), still baffled as to how it occurred, but it did. When I tell you it was so annoying having to manually go into the back tank and pull a lever to flush the toilet…do not get me started. I never took that handle for granted when it got fixed! So many times we get comfortable because things are available to us, but how would we react if the simple pleasures of life were to be taken away from us? Would we get upset, throw a tantrum, go crazy? How would you react if the thing you loved most was not available to you? Think about it. I’m …

Bringing the heat.

Walked into the new year like…Cheers to reaching 2019 in one piece. First post of the year! WOW. Y’all know 2018 was a good year for me, I graduated, traveled, fell deeper in love with God (and my boo), leveled up in jobs, almost at my career goal, I exceeded my BLOG GOAL OF 1000+ blog followers/subscribers, and most importantly all my family is blessed also. I mean so much more blessings but you know can’t list them all. 2019, I expect nothing LESS than the BEST and of course I’m bringing the heat all year! My two words for this year is STRENGTH & COURAGE. Strength allows you to show yourself how far you can actually go. It involves less self-doubt and more of a drive to be your best self. Courage says, “yes I may be a bit nervous or even afraid, but that’s not going to stop me!” Courage gives you the encouragement you need to never stop believing in all that potential you attain inside of you. So be my guess and …

Positivity wins every time​.

Hello loves, stepping into a new week like…  Let’s start it off with some positivity. Today’s post literally popped in my mind and I decided to just go with it. Since becoming a blogger I have been learning myself more and also been trying to be vulnerable more in my daily lifestyle. I’ve written a previous post called Reclaiming The Word Vulnerable, where I discuss the pros of vulnerability and how in some ways it is not such a terrible thing. Go take a read after if you have time, but today I just wanted to share some positiveness with you guys because there are so many things to be thankful for. With all the shootings, killings and overall horror going on in the world today, it is prevalent to keep our heads up and our hearts set on God! First of all, celebrate yourself. Celebrate your ups AND your downs. Yes, I wrote your downs too. Many people go through situations that may not have been the best, grow from it and move on. In …

what’s next?

Humans have a tendency of wanting to know what’s going on, ALL THE TIME! Like 24/7, no breaks, no heads up, no chill, no nothing its bananas. That’s cool, but give me a break. Please. [Real. Raw. Respect.] 01. Real. I am a new college graduate, which means I’m supposed to have my life figured out already, 10,000 job offers on the table or a secured job stacked away, a family, a house, a baby, a glow of success, money stashed, ideas planned, a life plan, health insurance, life insurance, happiness, no fears, no doubts, and most importantly ANSWERS to everyone’s questions on MY LIFE 🙂. Sounds familiar? Is that real enough for ya? I hope it was because I was being super sarcastic. Keeping it 1000% REAL, we do not like being asked: “WHAT’S NEXT?” It literally grinds our gears. What’s real is that sometimes we do not have all the answers you are looking for and to be honest THAT’S OKAY. Can we recuperate from this HUGE accomplishment? Can we BASK in our moment…even if …

choices and consequences.

Hello friends! I’m happy to be able to see a new day, a new opportunity to determine my future, a new chance at life. Today’s post stems from a dream I had about how one decision can ruin your entire life. I don’t usually share my dreams a lot, but this one is necessary and it taught me so much and it changed my view on life. ACTUAL LIFE AND FREEDOM. Stay tuned until the end, this is an important read. Choose YOU. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations and we think back like “how did I get here?” Sometimes we even find ourselves so deep that we feel like we cannot come out, so we say “it is what it is”. I have seen myself do this way too many times. Honestly, that is the mindset a lot of people out there have and that is why they are where they are right now. My dream. I had a dream last night, that has really changed my whole entire mindset. In my dream I …

maintain a growth mindset.

Happy Tuesday my lovely readers! I do hope you are haven g a great week like I am. Today’s post encourages us to adopt, maintain and embrace a growth mindset. Some of you are probably like I have a growth mindset, but do you? Are you really join g through situations expecting positive outcomes and not getting them BUT still maintaining a positive attitude? Stick around as I go further… I first learned about growth mindsets and fixed mindsets last semester through my student teaching experience from the principal of the school. She encouraged us teachers, leaders and role models to always strive to have growth mindsets because of the numerous benefits it not only offered ourselves, but the people (and students) around us. This left a long lasting impression on me. What is a growth mindset? In the simplest of terms, a growth mindset is open to change. Growth mindsets believe that challenges only produces growth. A person with a growth mindset says: “I can… improve, do it, be better if I tired harder”. …