All posts tagged: happiness

what’s next?

Humans have a tendency of wanting to know what’s going on,Β ALL THE TIME! Like 24/7, no breaks, no heads up, no chill, no nothing its bananas. That’s cool, but give me a break. Please. [Real. Raw. Respect.] 01. Real. I am a new college graduate, which means I’m supposed to have my life figured out already, 10,000 job offers on the table or a secured job stacked away, a family, a house, a baby, a glow of success, money stashed, ideas planned, a life plan, health insurance, life insurance, happiness, no fears, no doubts, and most importantly ANSWERS to everyone’s questions on MY LIFE πŸ™‚. Sounds familiar? Is that realΒ enough for ya? I hope it was because I was being super sarcastic. Keeping it 1000% REAL, we do not like being asked: β€œWHAT’S NEXT?” It literally grinds our gears. What’s real is that sometimes we do not have all the answers you are looking for and to be honest THAT’S OKAY. Can we recuperate from this HUGE accomplishment? Can we BASK in our moment…even if …

4 things to hold on to this year.

You clicked on this blog post because you want 2018 to be a great year and you want to achieve more than you did last year. You also clicked because you needed some motivation or inspiration to go throughout your day/week, no worries I got you. I have learned when we get closer to God, the better things begin to flow in our lives. This post explains the three things I deem as most important to have and hold on to this year in order to be successful and happy. Prayer. |Β Each new year comes and we make all these plans to do better and be better, two months in and we are back to our old selves. Our mindsets have to be changed…not surface level either, but deep within the roots of our heart. The first thing you need to have deeply rooted is PRAYER. When we pray we are communicating with God on a level that he alone understands. Religious or not, God is the ultimate provider and giver over this entire world. …

let your walls down.

walls noun the outer layer of something that is hallow; build for protection, security. Everyone is afraid to get their walls broken down, whether they admit it to themselves or not. People who enter your life may come with a smile, but inside we can never really tell if their intentions are really pure and true so that is what makes it even harder to let them in. This post is to encourage you, whoever YOU are that it is okay for you to let your guards down. Here is why: EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. Just because Harry or Suzy broke your heart does not mean that the next person that comes along will. Do not harden your heart or in other words, do not build your walls so high that no one else can climb over it. TAKE A CHANCE! It’s okay to be shy about it. It’s definitely okay to be a little closed off, but not too much to the point where the person feels like they can’t get to know you. BE …

get to know me challenge; the a-z of MJ

The Get To Know Me Challenge is basically to let you guys know a bit more about me, my likes, dislikes, inspirations as well as my aspirations. My blog is about β€œDigging a little deeper,” so let’s do just that! A– Art. I’ve grown to love and appreciate art so much more this year it’s crazy. B–Β Beliefs. I believe in God and that he created me (all things), not evolution. BONUS+B: I had BRACES. Cheers to that!! #PerfectTeeth C– Cupcakes. I bake them. I started a mini business, “Cupcakes By MJ” in 2013 (I think) which I’ve neglected but soon will start back at it. If you want to see more, here’s the link to my cupcake page click here! D– Dreamer. I have a dream to one day become a teacher, better than all the ones I’ve ever had. E– Emotional. I can get pretty emotional and it’s crazy because nobody ever thinks I am lol. I’m still a thug though. F– Fighter. I chose fighter because I’ve always been a fighter, both with …

tips to living stress-free.

Many people go about their day to day life being stressed out, unhappy and not living up to the standards that they are suppose to. Why do β€œwe” stress ourselves out so much daily? Why can’t we just forget about the burdens life brings us and be carefree? How can we change this and be stress-free? Can we ever really be β€œstress-free”? I think with the right steps we all can live a stress free life. So many people are stressed out and that is one of the leading causes of most health problems (heart/chest pains) and also the causes of aging fast and feeling down & out mentally/physically. If you have ever asked yourself any these questions or can relate to anything above, here are some tips you can take to becoming less stressed out and more care-free! First let’s define what stress actually is. According to the Merriam Dictionary, stress is: 1) a state of mental tension and worry caused by problems in your life, work, etc., 2) something that causes strong feelings …

23 reasons why it’s ok to be yourself.

Take one and go with it throughout the day or week! There is only one you and nobody else can ever be YOU. You are perfect just the way you are. Your imperfections make you even better! ( Might sound clichΓ©, but it’s true!) God created you for a reason, with a purpose, and you must accept that. You are beautiful. Look in the mirror and repeat it until you believe it! Everyone else is taken! Sorry you’re stuck in that body. When you stay true to who you are you allow others to see your creativity and trust me we have way more than we think. Believe it or not there are people out there who look up to you and appreciate your very being. You were NOT made to FIT IN, STAND OUT. You are a TRENDSETTER, not a follower. Nobody likes a follower. You have a purpose in this lifetime. There is someone or something out there that needs help from you and you only. You make a difference. You MATTER. It’s …

keep going.

They may not support you now, but keep on striving. They may not believe in you now, but keep going. They may not see the good in you, but ignore them and keep on going. You may not always feel the love, but remember there is someone who loves you unconditionally. You may feel like giving up, but remember that nobody likes a quitter. You may feel down & out, but keep pushing forward…regardless. Tell yourself today that it does not matter who or what is in the way of you reaching your goals, you can and you will be successful. You have to speak it into existence sometimes. Believe in you, believe that anything can be accomplished once you try your hardest. Failing IS AN OPTION. It’s only a stepping stone. Fail and try again. Failure isn’t something to be afraid of. β€œYou live and you learn.” Mistakes are inevitable. Failure is inevitable. Majority of successful people had no supporters and they have failed a couple times so do not be discouraged.Β You CAN.Β You WILL. …

there will be a day.

There will be a day when happiness will be the only option, And heartbreak would be no more. There will be a day when all the things you ever wished for, all your dreams and expectations will be all yours. There will be a day when you will get back all the bad or good that you dished out to people. There will be a day when you will finally be in first place, but how would you handle it? When all these things occur, what will you say? How will you react? Will you be humble or ungrateful & boastful? Will you be so happy that you give thanks on the spot or will you praise only yourself and not everyone who helped you get to the point you are now? Time waits on no one, so you better use it wisely. Should you not live each day like it’s your last? Giving back, thanking those who were always in your corner.. Should you not show more love and less hate, because there will …

a mother’s love.

A mother is a person who gives without thinking twice, She has a undying love that continues to touch your soul even when she is gone. Feels good to know that if ever the world turned against you, your mother never did and she never will. No one can ever care for you like your mother will or have. Sleepless nights of constant prayer, preparation of meals, making sure everything is ready by the time you wake up, Who can really define what a mother is? Words cannot come close to portray a mother’s love. Then there are some, that did not physically birth a child, but in my opinion are still considered a mother… you see She cared for you like a mother would, she was there the times your mother could not be present, she stepped up her role to support, love and cater to you. She is a mother. She was a mother. She will always be considered a mother. Nobody can ever take that title away from her. β€œMothers” give you …

5 ways to get over disappointment.

To disappoint is defined as, β€œTo defeat the fulfillment of hopes, plans etc.” Disappointment happens in many forms, either someone can be disappointed in you or vice versa. The question comes when we have to ask ourselves what are we going to do about the situation, how can we deal with the feeling and make things better? Well, first thing you need to do is figure out what you might have done to make someone feel like we have disappointed them. Investigate and face the situation head on. Don’t stay stagnant and not take action or else you are going to make worse of a bad situation. You must accept and take responsibility for what you have done in order to move on. Sometimes we make mistakes because we are humans, but that is all a part of the process. Once we truly accept our wrong we can successfully move forward. Secondly, we have to focus on ourselves (yes we). What do we really want? What do I want to change? We must stop pitying …

tips for dealing with HATERS.

Everyone at some point in their life have been held victim to hate, whether it has been hate from a stranger, co-worker, relative or past/present β€˜friends’. The question is how do we correctly go about dealing with a situation like this? Here are some do’s and don’ts: Do kill them with kindness. People who hate on you are very insecure and are not comfortable in their own skin. I have learned that when you are nice and pleasant with them they hate that even more! So kill them with all the kindness in the world. Give them the attention they seek by showing them how nice & unbothered you are, living your beautiful stress free life. Don’t answer them back. People love a good quarrel. They love to get you heated and to get under your skin. Never let anyone have ammunition over you. Once they realize that they do, they will continue to provoke you until you do something stupid in the end. Don’t ever get out of character and embarrass yourself. Trust me, …

truth about being alone.

Who said being alone was a bad thing? Getting to know and understand yourself, figuring your purpose and finding out who you are can never be a bad thing. Women in particular are more shunned for not being in serious relationships by their peers, family members, even public figures, but is this really something that should continually be done? It actually seem to me that women suffer a whole lot more emotionally by the constant questioning about not being in a relationship. That ends now. Everyone has a story. Everyone is different and move differently. There is nothing wrong with a person who wants to be alone for a bit. Taking time to get to understand things that you like and dislike is both normal and smart. Rushing into something just so that others can congratulate you or because you like the appearance it gives off is foolish because the only person being played is you. β€œYou’re playing yourself,” (in case you did not realize).
 It’s time to redefine being alone. Actually we are never …