10 Days To #TheMillerLove.

It’s 10 days until my wedding day and I am filled with butterflies! How has the time gone by so quickly? It felt like just yesterday we decided to what venue to have our wedding at and literally next week we’ll be sharing our “I do’s” in front of our closest friends and family. In today’s post, as promised it’s part of my “tell-all” wedding posts. I’m going to share 10 things people don’t know about weddings. This one will be good + surprise video at the end of the post!

10 Things People Don’t Know About Weddings (My Experience)

  1. It’s expensive as hell. Sorry, but I have to be blunt and real with you guys. Weddings are expensive so save up your coins, if you want a BIG GUEST LIST. I never understood why nobody told me this before haha and I now understand why some people decide to wait 1-2 years to plan their ‘dream’ weddings. IT MAKES SENSE NOW.
  2. It’s stressful as hell. Yup, you literally live, breathe and eat wedding stuff daily. All I see on my instagram feed is wedding things now. Every store I visit online and in-person I see something for my wedding. It. Is. Crazy. I stress over major and minor things and it can get overwhelming at times. Thank God I have friends to keep me calm.
  3. You have to always have answers. Reread that. Let it sink in. People will have so many questions about your business and will always want answers. I mean, that’s cool you want to know stuff, but have some manners and wait for me to share. And I don’t YOU OWE ANYONE ANSWERS! Period. You have to be intentional about your responses all the time!
  4. Picking a color feels like a life or death decision. How in the world did I not know that blue had so many shades?! It. Is. Bananas. You have to know the right color and shade you want from EVERYTHING: suits, dresses, napkins, table cloths, lights, flowers, ties, shirts…need I go on? My advice, do something simple so you won’t bust your brains!
  5. People will secretly HATE you & THAT’S OK. This one had to be #5 because it is real. Once someone doesn’t get an invite to your wedding, the awkwardness gets turned up a notch and they grow the biggest groins! Some may smile in your face and others are bold enough to come to ask you why they weren’t invited or where is their invitation. Excuse ME? IF THIS HAPPENS TO YOU…ask them this one thing, “Are you paying for my wedding or am I?”. That would shut down that whole scene. It’s unfair, ridiculous, disgusting + hella awkward to have to explain why a person was not invited. As much as you want everyone there, it’s not reality…and you pretty much do not owe anyone an explanation for your decisions. PERIOD.
  6. The groom is always calm + relaxed. Honestly, the groom is never stressed and it stresses me out haha. They are like 30% involved in wedding planning, however, they are indeed getting what needs to be done behind closed doors. Don’t expect him to be holding your hand every step of the way sis, you got to do what needs to get done. Just being real.
  7. You may lose sight of what the day is really about. This one ties in with #6. See, sometimes with all the planning 24/7, you lose the essence of why you decided to even have a wedding. For me, #6 made me so angry with the groom because I thought he wasn’t ‘doing enough’ in terms of his interest with picking simple things for the wedding and that caused arguments in our relationship. Honestly, it is not worth it. As stressful as it can get, don’t ever lose sight of the reason behind it all, which is the love you share with that person. A wedding is only a few hours, but marriage is FOREVER!
  8. YOU NEED A WEDDING PLANNER, LIKE FORREAL. Sacrifice and get a wedding planner. I would not wish this planning on my enemy. It’s A LOT! People don’t get it. Every single detail you are enjoying on that day was handpicked and thought out (sometimes by multiple people, multiple times). I tell my friends now, don’t have a wedding based on my experience. It’s to the point where I get annoyed when people ask me “So how’s everything going?”. In my head I’m like the real answer or should I fake it? Haha. Don’t sleep on this. SAVE UP & get a wedding planner!
  9. You may lose a friend or two. This one right here! Actually, for me, I had to cut some people off and get hella choosy with who I keep as my close company. Weddings bring out the real in people. You begin to see their true colors. I love it though because I’d rather go into my marriage with really supportive people in my corner versus a fraudulent person creeping around.
  10. Your ‘IDGAF’ attitude heightens. Yup, this one is my favorite. It’s not even me trying to be rude or anything, but I don’t care about what people think 10x more now. Weddings make your eyes open in ways you would never think of. #’s 1-9 for example, and you learn more about yourself, what you can handle and what you will allow to handle in the future. Fun fact: Attention seekers are 100x more in your face being salty about an invite and it’s so sad. Beware of the snakes.
  11. One more because this is important: Little things ADD UP to big things money towards your last days! Something as small as flower girls baskets or vases for the aisle can add up to so much money. This is why #8 is so important. Pro tip: Plan ahead, write things down so you won’t forget.
  12. Okay LAST ONE. It’s your parents wedding. I won’t say anymore.

PS. If you enjoyed this post, share it with any future bride to be’s because lord knows they’ll need this advice!

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IN OTHER NEWS… I am really looking forward to my wedding day. I know it will be spectacular and memorable. Follow my socials to keep up with all my bridal events!

Thanks for stopping by! xoxo MJ.

Keeping It Real.

Let’s be real…

People never keep it real, especially with themselves, but hopefully, after this post, you won’t be one of those people.

2019 we have a lot of things we want to accomplish, but what’s real is this… YOU WILL NOT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING WITHOUT A PLAN. Show me someone who accomplished their goal without proper direction and I’ll stand corrected. 

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Start HERE.

This year I want us to elevate ourself—mind, body, soul. What does it mean to elevate? Elevate means to rise to a more important, impressive level. With elevation, there needs to be recognition and change. I bet y’all didn’t know that! Write down what you can do to ignite that flame inside of you. Get a book specifically for this, this way you can jot down your goals for the new year. Not just any goal, but realistic goals that are attainable. Elevation of oneself also involves willingness to want to do better and get better. A lot of us say things, but our actions show something totally different. Let’s TRY DO IT. More action.

–> Next, PLAN IT OUT.

Every plan executed the right way will work out. I have been caught in 2018 not planning things out properly and then, in the end, having to rush or settle for less (or even miss out). So this year I decided that the best way to WIN, is to plan things out ahead of time. To be honest, when we make plans (lavish plans) right now we may not have all the funds or resources, but that’s okay. That’s where saving comes in. Y’all I’m literally speaking to myself in this post also. When it comes to saving, this year I’m trying to buckle down and prosper for real. So planning + saving goes hand in hand if you want REAL results. 

Okay so far, I made it clear the

importance of elevation/action + planning/saving,

the next thing I want to discuss is acknowledgment.

Acknowledge It.

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All Photos By Cassy G.

When we acknowledge something, we give it our undivided attention or recognition. That entails us becoming aware, open, and vulnerable—in some cases. You’re probably wondering what exactly I’m referring to right now, aren’t you? Bare with me. Okay, so acknowledgment is something many of us choose to ignore. We do not face the things in our life or the things about us that need changing and that can be the thing that keeps us back immensely.

Recognition ignites a decision. 

Question: Do you take accountability for your actions? I’m talking about your actions that are recognized…or do you choose to blatantly ignore it? Think about that.

Some helpful tips:

  • Deal with things head on.
  • Acknowledge where you may have done wrong.
  • Apologize first.
  • Cry if you need to.
  • Let go of excuses.
  • Make realistic resolutions.
  • KEEP IT REAL WITH YOURSELF.

Remember, “every level of your life will require a different version of yourself.”

 Outfit deets:

Turtleneck sweater & Booties- Boohoo, Jacket- Zara, Skirt- Forever 21, Bag- Aldo

4 things to remember about life.​

Here are “4 things to remember about life” in a short, get right to it post:

1. It is a learning process.

Point me in the direction of a person who got it right from the beginning. I’ll wait. Nobody knows how to do everything right the first, second or third time, but they kept pushing. You cannot be so down on yourself when things do not go the way you played it too. I learned this DAILY.

2. It requires A Plan.

Honestly, I’m winging it in this life, BUT I’m learning that part of the “learning process” requires some thought + planning. You need a plan of where you want to be and what steps you are going to take to get there. Trust me, I know it is hard to sit down and plan things, procrastination always comes knocking but push through. Great “planners” often are the ones with the most successes.

3. You need to show love now.

Life is short. Our loved ones will not be here forever. As hard that is to comprehend, it is the sad reality. Life is not promised. You could see someone a day/week/hour/month ago, then the next thing you know you receive a call saying they’re gone. The biggest mistake you can ever make in your life is taking your family/friends/loved ones for granted. Show love now and cherish the memories later.

4. You control the steering wheel.

As a new driver, I found it fitting to add this one in. When driving, both hands have to be on the steering wheel (for me because I’m a new driver) and you have to focus keenly on the road. Need I to go on? You are in control of you. Period. Circumstances will arrive, but how will you handle it? Keep your hands on the steering wheel, stay focus and drive to your successful destination.

Remember: Learn, plan, love and control. Four things that you must do in this lifetime.

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“Why am I not speaking directly to the hopes and fears of this very moment?”