All posts tagged: strength

Punch Back.

*photos by Duran Andrae* CHIN UP, YOU GOT THIS. It’s a new week, new day, new vibes, new opportunity to be better, do better. This post will not be significantly long as my previous post, it gets straight to the point so keep reading. I know you are interested in knowing what this post is referring to by the title “Punch Back”, no worries..you’ll soon find out. The relationships we form on a regular basis with friends, family or even the mere strangers we meet outside are sometimes formed in unexpected ways, however, they hold some type of significance in our lives. Sometimes we are impacted by how nice someone says good morning or even the kind act of someone picking up something that fell out from our hands, but how are we reciprocating these acts of kindness? Do we forget what others have done for us and treat the next person without a care in the world, or do we stop to offer that genuine love that was shown to us? My point is …

Facing Life.

Warning: This post is a bit lengthy, but it’s worth the read. #BlackGirlJoy My two words for the year, as mentioned in a previous post are STRENGTH & COURAGE. Are those words being put into action in your life? We are almost into our third month of the year, more specifically almost 1/4 into the year…are you doing enough? Are you facing life head on? I try to think about life and what it feels like sometimes and this is what I came up with. Imagine being thrown into a boxing ring with a professional boxer, who has a bunch of wins under his belt. You, on the other hand, is not a professional boxer, a matter of fact you’re an amateur and have no wins under your belt. So obviously you’re going to get punched left, right and center. A beat down. Head faced down, tears running down your face, unconscious, and embarrassed. Life is that pro-boxer and we are the person faced down on the floor. Life feels like an ongoing beatdown sometimes …

make lemonade!

Hello loves, Happy International Women’s Day. “Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.” Today’s post I’m encouraging you to make lemonade when life gives you lemons! I have been given lots of lemons throughout my years of life, but I always tried to make “lemonade” or make better out of my situation. One thing I have learned was to never forget who I am and where I came from. Not just that, but the reason behind it. Times have changed a lot from when I was younger. I say this in reference to having pride in where you came from. It was not so easy being the kid who just migrated to the U.S. from the Caribbean, in a class filled with Americans. There were ups and downs, but I never forgot where I came from, as a matter of fact, I think I was overly proud …

never thirst again.

It’s time to quench your thirst.💛 As mentioned in one of my previous posts, “You Are Enough” if someone cannot see how incredible you are, let them go! If someone cannot appreciate what you have to offer, keep it to yourself. Lock it up, throw away the key. Okay, don’t throw away the key because someone worthy might come knocking! (See previous post) No need to ever waste your time again. Never thirst for them again. Never thirst for things that can be quenched elsewhere. Remember that with every cup that is half empty, there is another that is running over. Whatever is holding you hostage, whatever is captivating your mind leave it alone. Do not ever lose touch with who you are. Never thirst for what is not yours. What is for you, will be for you and no one can ever change that. Don’t cry over spoiled milk, go out and buy more. Never thirst again. To that person who cannot seem to flee from something that is bringing down their character, Muster …

let your walls down.

walls noun the outer layer of something that is hallow; build for protection, security. Everyone is afraid to get their walls broken down, whether they admit it to themselves or not. People who enter your life may come with a smile, but inside we can never really tell if their intentions are really pure and true so that is what makes it even harder to let them in. This post is to encourage you, whoever YOU are that it is okay for you to let your guards down. Here is why: EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. Just because Harry or Suzy broke your heart does not mean that the next person that comes along will. Do not harden your heart or in other words, do not build your walls so high that no one else can climb over it. TAKE A CHANCE! It’s okay to be shy about it. It’s definitely okay to be a little closed off, but not too much to the point where the person feels like they can’t get to know you. BE …

tips to living stress-free.

Many people go about their day to day life being stressed out, unhappy and not living up to the standards that they are suppose to. Why do “we” stress ourselves out so much daily? Why can’t we just forget about the burdens life brings us and be carefree? How can we change this and be stress-free? Can we ever really be “stress-free”? I think with the right steps we all can live a stress free life. So many people are stressed out and that is one of the leading causes of most health problems (heart/chest pains) and also the causes of aging fast and feeling down & out mentally/physically. If you have ever asked yourself any these questions or can relate to anything above, here are some tips you can take to becoming less stressed out and more care-free! First let’s define what stress actually is. According to the Merriam Dictionary, stress is: 1) a state of mental tension and worry caused by problems in your life, work, etc., 2) something that causes strong feelings …

23 reasons why it’s ok to be yourself.

Take one and go with it throughout the day or week! There is only one you and nobody else can ever be YOU. You are perfect just the way you are. Your imperfections make you even better! ( Might sound cliché, but it’s true!) God created you for a reason, with a purpose, and you must accept that. You are beautiful. Look in the mirror and repeat it until you believe it! Everyone else is taken! Sorry you’re stuck in that body. When you stay true to who you are you allow others to see your creativity and trust me we have way more than we think. Believe it or not there are people out there who look up to you and appreciate your very being. You were NOT made to FIT IN, STAND OUT. You are a TRENDSETTER, not a follower. Nobody likes a follower. You have a purpose in this lifetime. There is someone or something out there that needs help from you and you only. You make a difference. You MATTER. It’s …

the a-z happiness challenge.

Thanks to a blogger friend, I decided to also do the A-Z Happiness Challenge, which I put my own little twist on. I thought it was a great idea and went for it. Here’s what I came up with: Appreciate yourself first. Breathe. Take a deep breath and remember there will be brighter days. Concentrate on your goal. You’re closer than you think! Dream out loud. Dreams have a way of becoming a reality. Exercise love and patience, it is key for your happiness! Face your fears, forget the haters, and fight for what you want. GROW with GOD. Help others. By doing this HE (God) will surely bless you. Increase in knowledge. Happy people are knowledgeable people. Jump for joy because you are one step closer to being a better person. Jot down things you want to try next in your journal. Keep Up With Yourself! You have to be in control of your life. Kill people with kindness. Let go. Live more. Love all. Motivate others. Make new friends. Make memories! Never let anyone define your …

keep going.

They may not support you now, but keep on striving. They may not believe in you now, but keep going. They may not see the good in you, but ignore them and keep on going. You may not always feel the love, but remember there is someone who loves you unconditionally. You may feel like giving up, but remember that nobody likes a quitter. You may feel down & out, but keep pushing forward…regardless. Tell yourself today that it does not matter who or what is in the way of you reaching your goals, you can and you will be successful. You have to speak it into existence sometimes. Believe in you, believe that anything can be accomplished once you try your hardest. Failing IS AN OPTION. It’s only a stepping stone. Fail and try again. Failure isn’t something to be afraid of. “You live and you learn.” Mistakes are inevitable. Failure is inevitable. Majority of successful people had no supporters and they have failed a couple times so do not be discouraged. You CAN. You WILL. …

a mother’s love.

A mother is a person who gives without thinking twice, She has a undying love that continues to touch your soul even when she is gone. Feels good to know that if ever the world turned against you, your mother never did and she never will. No one can ever care for you like your mother will or have. Sleepless nights of constant prayer, preparation of meals, making sure everything is ready by the time you wake up, Who can really define what a mother is? Words cannot come close to portray a mother’s love. Then there are some, that did not physically birth a child, but in my opinion are still considered a mother… you see She cared for you like a mother would, she was there the times your mother could not be present, she stepped up her role to support, love and cater to you. She is a mother. She was a mother. She will always be considered a mother. Nobody can ever take that title away from her. “Mothers” give you …

tips for dealing with HATERS.

Everyone at some point in their life have been held victim to hate, whether it has been hate from a stranger, co-worker, relative or past/present ‘friends’. The question is how do we correctly go about dealing with a situation like this? Here are some do’s and don’ts: Do kill them with kindness. People who hate on you are very insecure and are not comfortable in their own skin. I have learned that when you are nice and pleasant with them they hate that even more! So kill them with all the kindness in the world. Give them the attention they seek by showing them how nice & unbothered you are, living your beautiful stress free life. Don’t answer them back. People love a good quarrel. They love to get you heated and to get under your skin. Never let anyone have ammunition over you. Once they realize that they do, they will continue to provoke you until you do something stupid in the end. Don’t ever get out of character and embarrass yourself. Trust me, …

truth about being alone.

Who said being alone was a bad thing? Getting to know and understand yourself, figuring your purpose and finding out who you are can never be a bad thing. Women in particular are more shunned for not being in serious relationships by their peers, family members, even public figures, but is this really something that should continually be done? It actually seem to me that women suffer a whole lot more emotionally by the constant questioning about not being in a relationship. That ends now. Everyone has a story. Everyone is different and move differently. There is nothing wrong with a person who wants to be alone for a bit. Taking time to get to understand things that you like and dislike is both normal and smart. Rushing into something just so that others can congratulate you or because you like the appearance it gives off is foolish because the only person being played is you. “You’re playing yourself,” (in case you did not realize).
 It’s time to redefine being alone. Actually we are never …