Hello my loves,
I hope you are having a beautiful day and I hope my smile made it a tiny bit better! Today’s post is about the unforeseen expectations, situations, and trials that are constantly thrown at us in this thing called LIFE that we are living. I hope my experience can encourage someone to not give up on their dreams and change their attitude from today to take charge of their destiny.
“Do not let yourself be caught up in the trap of comparison.”- Octavia Spencer
This quote has been stuck with me all week because I was beginning to lose myself along the way. To be honest, I am not the type of person to compare myself to others, but lately, I found myself in a dark hole of constant attack on myself. This involved questioning my decisions, who I am, what I stand for, what I’m doing with my life etc. It’s weird for me to even come to this conclusion because my last post was encouraging you (and myself) to not worry or fear because “your season is coming”, but for two months I’ve had setbacks…well, so I thought.
Reflection is a beautiful thing, for two reasons:
- It allows you to review what has taken place.
- It opens the opportunity for you to make a change.
So I did just that. I sat down and I reflected on what this year has brought me so far. You know when people (therapists haha) suggest that you write down a list of the good and the bad, yeah that actually works. The good list was longer than the bad, however as I began to nitpick at each of the things I wrote down, I thought of ways I can make a change so that the “bad or unaccomplished goal” can change its course and leave me with a more developed plan and a clear mind.
My experience has brought me to this conclusion…
Life is unpredictable. Life is full of unexpected twists and turns.
Does that give us to right to quit? No.
Remember when I said for two months I’ve had setbacks? Well, December 2017 I finished all the requirements for being an undergrad. Yes, I’m a college graduate and I walk in MAY 2018. As beautiful as that is an accomplishment, it is not MY finish line. To be able to use my degree fully I have to complete my certifications and workshops so I can be a certified teacher and have my own classroom. For two months I have been in a wormhole of situations and I have been experiencing a whole heap of emotions. The pressure of making it “big”, making your parents proud, passing your tests, accomplishing your goals and making your dreams come true has all been OVERWHELMING. Up until a few days ago, I decided to block out everything and refocus my mind on what’s really important, that is my attitude. Yes, I said my attitude. Everything is based on our attitude towards life. I’ve listened to a podcast that said, “Your attitude determines your altitude”. I instantly felt a change inside me that gave me the motivation to fight for what I want and where I want to be. It is prevalent that my attitude, whether I fail or succeed show that of what God has instilled inside of me. I realized that in order for me to truly succeed I have to have perseverance. I cannot focus my attention on pleasing my family, but I have to please myself (and God). I am not perfect and neither am I trying to depict that ever, but my aspiration is to be the best I can be. That is my ultimate goal.
As I sat home one day in my bed, I began to write down things to help encourage myself and keep me focused, and I also began to plan more efficiently.
Affirmations can take you far. TRUST ME.
- Sometimes I have to roll with the punches and continue to keep going.
- Ignore what I see on social media and do not let that consume my life. I have before, but I have realized what’s on the net/tv is not real life and not always true. Giving it my attention will only make me question who I am and what I am capable of.
- “Don’t let who you’re becoming be shaped my disappointments. Also, don’t let yourself be shaped by achievements.” – Octavia Spencer
- My journey is mine and I am in control of it.
- I am evolving constantly. Just as the earth revolves, I EVOLVE.
- NEVER let my own fear make me stop pushing myself.
- If I want something, I need to go for it with everything inside me.
Thanks to Octavia Spencer’s speech, I am beginning to “embrace the mess”. You can watch it HERE. Trust me, if you ever feel lesser than what you know you can give out, watch this video. It will help you and motivate you to be a better you.
Outfit details: Crew neck Forever 21, Trousers Boohoo, Shoes Steve Madden, Bag Zara.
Thanks for stopping by, xoxo MJ.