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let your walls down.

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walls

noun

  1. the outer layer of something that is hallow; build for protection, security.

Everyone is afraid to get their walls broken down, whether they admit it to themselves or not. People who enter your life may come with a smile, but inside we can never really tell if their intentions are really pure and true so that is what makes it even harder to let them in. This post is to encourage you, whoever YOU are that it is okay for you to let your guards down.
Here is why:

Processed with VSCO with 3 presetEVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.
Just because Harry or Suzy broke your heart does not mean that the next person that comes along will. Do not harden your heart or in other words, do not build your walls so high that no one else can climb over it.

TAKE A CHANCE!
It’s okay to be shy about it. It’s definitely okay to be a little closed off, but not too much to the point where the person feels like they can’t get to know you.

BE HONEST AND STRAIGHTFORWARD.
Let the person know what you stand for and what your intentions are. Doing this will make you feel a lot better and it will be that much more liberating!

TAKE YOUR TIME.
Moving fast is never the right decision. Get to know what the other person is about and test them to see if they really are what you want.

Don’t let fear overtake your life.
The fear of rejection
The fear of being alone
The fear of failure
The fear of being taken advantage off
The fear of LETTING GO

Choose to be happy. It’s okay to trust someone. Nobody likes to be fully exposed and vulnerable, but taking the step to being self-aware of what you have been through and fully accepting it for what it is helps you move forward. It is always scary stepping out our comfort zones, but you will never know if that person or that thing you want to do will be the best experience of your life until you try. It’s better to know than to stay unknowing. It gets better with TIME. Good Luck. xxx
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47 responses to “let your walls down.”

  1. shalzmojo Avatar
    shalzmojo

    I am often accused of building walls around me and shutting down as soon as someone tries to come close. Sigh! the fear of being hurt again is just too much to bear at times.
    Loved your post for it inspires to be brave.
    You are right – I need to take a chance sometime; no gaurantees but then maybe this is the one! No point shutting down opportunities with fear.

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Aww, I’m so happy to hear that! It will always be scary, but being brave is the only hope you have to overcome any obstacle. Give it a chance! <3

      Reply
  2. kirstyhoggons Avatar
    kirstyhoggons

    I love this post. It honestly felt like you were talking about me! Gosh, so much I can relate to haha!

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Thank you! So glad it was relatable!💗

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  3. thelifedegree Avatar
    thelifedegree

    thanks for being so open and encouraging us to let go. what was your inspiration to write this post? x

    http://www.thelifedegree.com

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Life in general & speaking from my past experiences…opening up & letting go made me find my other half! 💗💗💗

      Reply
  4. Sophie Avatar
    Sophie

    I’m fortunate to not struggle with heartbreak and staying closed in with relationships, however with friends and best friends I’ve certainly been hurt in the past and it makes it so hard to make new close friends, I’m just always so frightened it’ll happen again 🙁 however you’re right I should let go and carry on as life moves on and so should I 🙂

    Thanks for such a lovely post, hopefully it’ll lift some people’s spirits xx

    sophieannetaylor.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Aww, I can totally relate! I’m glad it has helped you a bit. The goal is to encourage people to not be so scared to open up!💗

      Reply
  5. abbeylouisarose Avatar
    abbeylouisarose

    This is such an inspiring post, MJ! I totally agree with your point that everyone is different, and that just because somebody has hurt you in the past does not mean that the next person to come along will do the same thing. I have had to learn this myself recently, and although it is sometimes hard to trust new people, some people that you meet are really worth it and restore your faith in others! Thank you for sharing!

    Abbey 💋 http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Definitely agree with you! I’m so happy you like it! Thanks for reading💗💗💗

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  6. pinkiebag Avatar
    pinkiebag

    Great read. You are right we are different and it’s good to be happy 😊, Chloe.
    https://pinkiebag.com/

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Always good to be happy indeed!💗

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  7. Nena Avatar
    Nena

    Knowing that we are all different is key to understanding one another and ourselves. Great post, love!

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Yes indeed! Thank you so much!🌸🌸

      Reply
  8. Jess Avatar
    Jess

    Ugh you write SO beautifully! Bookmarking this to send to every friend of mine who goes through a heartbreak – I never know what to say to them but this says it ALL and so perfectly! Lovely read thanks so much for sharing! Looking forward to your next post 🙂 Jess xx

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Aww, that really touched my heart! Thanks so much, I really appreciate it!💗💗💗💗💗

      Reply
  9. Jessica Avatar
    Jessica

    This is so inspiring! You have such a way with words, so relateable! Thank you so much for sharing!

    Jessica
    Foodandbaker.co.uk

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Thank you so much missy! I appreciate it💗💗💗💗

      Reply
  10. Lindsay Murrell Avatar
    Lindsay Murrell

    This is such a great and honest post! I’m defiantly one for not opening up, it’s something I really struggle with!

    L xo
    http://www.lindsaymurrell.co.uk

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      I get it, not everyone is so open. The key is time. Take your time, but just remember to not be so closed off that you shun everyone out. It’s okay to be afraid, but learn to trust yourself!💗💗💗💗 thanks for reading!

      Reply
  11. Hollyx Avatar
    Hollyx

    This is a lovely post xx it can be hard for people to open up but this post is really helpful x

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Thank you so much! xxx💗💗

      Reply
  12. fairlyrosy Avatar
    fairlyrosy

    I relate so much. I do tend to build up walls and I’m trying to work on this. I am starting to incorporate some of the things you’ve mentioned like taking chances.

    Lisa | http://www.fairlyrosy.com
    x

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Glad to hear that!💗💗💗

      Reply
  13. Lucy Avatar
    Lucy

    I know this feeling all too well! It’s great to see some tips (and have them so beautifully written) x

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Aww, thank you! I really appreciate it💗

      Reply
  14. Jessica Emily Avatar
    Jessica Emily

    This Post is super motivational ! Thanks for much for sharing. I especially love the bit about the fact that everyone is different – it’s so true and I think we all need to remember it sometimes and stop comparing! Great post x

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Yes yes yes! Thanks for reading💗💗💗you’re super right!

      Reply
  15. Marta (@atrrraM) Avatar
    Marta (@atrrraM)

    Letting go is the best advice ever xx

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Thank you. It definitely is!💗

      Reply
  16. alittlereader Avatar
    alittlereader

    Great post and helpful tips, sometimes all I need is to read some positive notes to get me motivated and this defiantly helped! – Sarah xoxo

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Glad to hear that!💗💗

      Reply
  17. psychologyfoodandfitness Avatar
    psychologyfoodandfitness

    Aw this is the loveliest! I agree with everything you said. As hard as it is, you do have to let them barriers down and let go.. i believe it’s on the only way to have true happiness. Holding on isn’t good for anyone!

    Nadia | http://psychologyfoodandfitness.blogspot.co.uk <3

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      It surely isn’t! Glad you liked this post! Thank you <3

      Reply
  18. Abigail West Avatar
    Abigail West

    This is soooo relatable! I have definitely changed a bit in the last year or so but I used to shut down and shut everyone out when I was hurt by someone else. However, I am now beginning to let go of some of the past and move on as there is no point in dragging it all along with you.
    Such a good read!!

    Abs
    https://afababulouslife.blogspot.jp

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Thank you! Glad you like it💗💗

      Reply
  19. Eleanor Avatar
    Eleanor

    This is such a lovely post, I think I definitely need to take my time with things in the future and not just rush! xx

    Eleanorclaudie.com

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Thank you lovely 💞

      Reply
  20. todaysouhaila Avatar
    todaysouhaila

    Amazing thoughts.nicely written and the topic you discused is really important xo

    Todaysouhaila.blogspot.com

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Aww, thanks so much!💗

      Reply
  21. Em Avatar
    Em

    These sort of posts are my fave and this was so beautifully written!! And so down to Earth and true, we are all different and this is something that needs to be preached a whole load more!! Great post lovely xo

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Thank you & it definitely needs to be💗💗

      Reply
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  23. xmeganlisa Avatar
    xmeganlisa

    Great post! So relatable! I definitely have walls up x

    Meg
    xMeganLisa.wordpress.com

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    1. keepingupwithMJ Avatar
      keepingupwithMJ

      Yes let them down hun!

      Reply
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