the art of being unbothered.
This is the art of seriously not giving a crap about what others think, feel or may say about you. Cheers in advance to you for not caring. I think the older I get, the more I have learned to master this art. Not going to lie, I may have slipped probably ONE time..but believe me when I say I have no time to waste anymore. What is the point of worrying about what someone says, especially if they are not saying directly to your face? Why give them the satisfaction of even giving something small as eye contact? Do not.
Time for you to master the art of being UNBOTHERED.
STEP 1: Give yourself a minute to recuperate. Some people are blessed with the art of not caring, while some have to work through it. It takes time to stop caring what someone says or thinks of you, the mere fact is because we as humans overthink everything. Take a minute and recognize that you do not need to please anyone but you.
STEP 2: Ignore. Simple as that. People hate being ignored, you will be surprised how much you can get someone upset/agitated by just ignoring them. Unimportant people do not EVER need your attention.
STEP 3: BLOOM. I say bloom because that is what “WE” are doing daily. We are growing, blossoming, blooming like flowers and literally getting better each day. People do not like to see you succeed, but succeed anyway!
Ladies tell yourself, “Everyday this queen gets better.”
Men tell yourself, “Everyday this king grows stronger.”
STEP 4: Live to please YOU. You won’t always please everyone, it’s impossible. I’m sure our ancestors tried that method and failed terribly. Please yourself. Do things that you think will help you grow as a person because in the end it is your life, not the person who is babbling in your hear. Pep talks are definitely necessary sometimes for days where you may feel down in the gutter, but do not let that stop your GRIND.
STEP 5: Let your actions do the talking for you. Actions speak louder than words. That is all you need to remember. Being unbothered, while getting your goals completed is the greatest solution.
Time to master this art. Stop caring about what people think. Live a life you want to live. You are more than what anyone may say negatively about you. You are way stronger than you think! Once that is understood within yourself, everything else will fall into place. Trust me. Being Unbothered will be your greatest accomplishment yet!
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What’s your advice on being unbothered?
I’m still learning but I’d say being a little selfish sometimes and focusing on myself and not them helps me quite a bit oh and having a general disinterest in many things helps too. You literally can’t be effected if you don’t care but I find myself either caring too much or not at all.
Interesting post! I really enjoyed it
Thank you! You just have to learn to not care, always. Negative remarks aren’t worth it❤️
I fell in love with this post!!! Following you right now😍😍 So happy that I found your blog and can’t wait to read your next post❤
Thank you so much!❤️️
I have to admit, I need to learn a lot about not caring a bit. I mean, it will definitely be a good thing. I love reading this and hoping I could learn to do this art.
Girl yes you can! I believe in you lol. Thanks for reading💕
This is such a great post! Im currently reading the art of not giving a …. it has some really good points in there! It’s so easy to let things get to you, but what’s the point? Thanks for sharing! xXx
http://www.jessicabkennedy.co.uk
Thanks girl! I need to read that..haha💕
I love this! Such true and important words! Definitely something we all have to consider.
Thanks lovely 💕
I love this post! It’s the perfect amount of sassy and everyone needs to learn to be a little more selfish x
Lol yess!!! Thanks girl💕
this is so inspirational!! everyone needs to read this and learn from it
Definitely, spread the word! 💕💕
I totally needed to hear this. I am definitely going to come back to this post on my down days when I’m letting other people get to me. You always know the right words to say. You’re amazing.
God bless you.
Charlene McElhinney
@blogabtnothing1
Aww thanks love. You know the feeling is mutual💕💕💕
You are soooo right with this post! I love this x
http://www.sisterofthemoon.co.uk
Thanks💕✨
Great way to put it! Love this xxx
Thanks!!
“bloom” – both the most important and most difficult part of that entire list!
Yes indeed!💕
Loved this post, it’s so important to let things go and not be bothered!
-Soph
http://www.planetwhispers.blogspot.co.uk
Yes indeed! Thank you💕
I’m atill learning to be like this and I think these steps will help me on my way! Thank you for sharing.
Robyn // http://www.midnightandlace.co.uk/
You are so welcome!💕
Loved this post i just need you to preach this to like a million more people please! Haha seriously I really learned from this post and being only 15 there are people who say things that get to me at school but I’m going to master the art of being unbothered 🙂
Go on girl! lol I’d say it 1 million time more🙏🏾💕
Haha, so true, especially #2 and #3! Also be sure to remind yourself that at least you’re not that rude!
Definitely!💕
“Live to please YOU.” YES YES YES As the years go by, I’ve realized that living to please everyone is just living without ever being happy with yourself. One way I don’t let anyone get to me is by not paying attention to them; the only thing people really want is a reaction from you and if you don’t give them that then you’ve won 🙂
– Sahara
http://saharas-dreams.blogspot.com
EXACTLY! You got it girl. Thanks for understanding & reading💕💕
Bookmarking this! This is something I’m really bad at, but I’m so glad you’ve come over it! I just struggle so hard, I mean with people I don’t know very well I’m 100% fine at not caring, but when ‘friends’ are cruel I find it so hard to ignore straight away. I’m great at not caring once I sit back and realise they are not worth my time, but in the initial moments I really struggle – so thank you for such a good advice post I need to re-read this a lot! xx
sophieannetaylor.blogspot.co.uk
I’m so glad I can help you! No problem, thanks!💕
These are really great points! Thank you for sharing these with everyone, love. I know that they will come in handy!
Yes they will! Thank you💕
Still learning how to be unapologetically me, love this !
Thank you! You’ll get there!💕
YES! This is literally what I preach to all my friends all the time!! I’ve definitely mastered the art and totally agree that everyone should! Great post as always! Jess xx
Yes! Thank you💞 I’m glad you have!
Love this post! Not caring what others think can be harder said than done at times, good advice x
Yep but always be one step ahead! Thank you💕
Yes! Yes! Yes! I was literally telling a friend of mine how to do this very thing today and now reading this, I love it great piece 🙂
Haha, yay thanks! Glad you do💕
This post is EVERYTHING! Since I stopped caring what others think my life has improved so much. The art of being unbothered should be the title of your book girl!
Char xo || http://www.memoirsmusings.com
Definitely! Right I think so too! Thanks💕
This was such a great post. I love reading posts that not only talk about self-unbotheredness (is that a word? it is now), but also helps people learn how to be unbothered in a way that’s both healthy and helps people learn to be happy. This is the type of thing I expect when I see people chatting about being unbothered and I wish more unbothered content was like it. ❤
mchi (@mchiouji) | http://blog.mchiouji.me
Aww thank you!💕
This was such a good read! I need to seriously takes notes from this because this is still a major thing I’m still working on as I take things to heart way too easily! Thanks so much for this post! x
You are so welcome!💕💕
Love these tips! It definitely is an art. It is something that you keep developing and learning and perfecting!
Right it sure is! Thanks for reading 💕
Such an amazing post, Marikah! I’m amongst the lucky few who don’t care about what other people think, but I know that lots of people struggle so much with this. x
P.S. I love your new blog design!
Emma
http://www.heykittygurl.com
Oh thank you thank you! Means a lot❤️️
Amazing post. I think that it’s so important to don’t let other peoples opinions get under your skin and stop you to do the things that you enjoy and feel happy doing. xo
Antonia || Sweet Passions
Definitely!
Loved this! Especially since it’s Anti Bullying week, this will help so many people. This is just a daily reminder that people need to read. Love, Larice
Oh wow I didn’t even know! That’s wonderful!
Really needed this post <3
Morgan //
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Urgh love this, love post like this do give me a little boost!!! Love your pictures!! xox
Thank you❤️️
Loved this, really inspiring! x
http://www.izzieslife.co.uk
Thank you!❤️️
As a kid i was always caring about people and opinions but as I grew up I went through a lot and realised it doesn’t matter what other people say so for me, my junior year of high school is when I gave less of a fuck about what other people say. It just clicked in my mind. Partially because of the reason I say “lettie you’re a queen” over and over again. Literally that works so well haha -L
lol that’s great that you know now! Good for you❤️️
Amazing post MJ. It was really inspirational.
Jeff. | NAMELESSJEFF
Thanks!✨
Wow, what a strong, power full post! I love your motivation to be positive!
I will get better!
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xo
Thank you!❤️️
I love this so much. I definitely feel as I’ve gotten older and grown as a person I relate to this entirely. I’m one of the people who has to work harder at it at times, my initial reaction is to go crazy and get drawn in but now I just pity anyone who tries to judge you or whatever. Life is too short for that stuff! Mel x
Girl you’ll get better at it!!❤️️❤️️
This is such a great post! This type of motivation is definitely needed in this day and age. xo
Omnivoguesr
Aww thanks!❤️️❤️️
Ah this is great! Really needed it right now. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Thank you!
I love this and will implement in my life. Thank you!
Love
Shanel
http://babblingonbeauty.blogspot.co.uk/2016/11/urban-decay-flagship-store-udcarnaby.html?m=1
You are most welcome! Thanks for reading <3
This is such a helpful post! I’m always asking what other will think of me if if do this or that! Thank you for the lovely tips 🙂
Sarah | What Sarah Writes | Giveaway
You are most welcomed!💕
This post is amazing, thanks so much! I will definitely keep coming back to this to remind myself to stop caring so much about what others think!
Sophie x | http://www.snippetofsophie.com
Definitely! Thank you❤️️
Such a good post! Definitely understand what you are talking about. Sometimes people say things which really unnerve me, so next time I will try to use your tips, thanks!
Rachel
creativityandcrazy.blogspot.com
No problem my love!
This is a magical list MJ. I love it!!!!
Indeed. Thank you!
Hi, what a delightful post. Point 3 about blooming like a flier was my favourite and an important one to remind ourselves daily. Thanks for sharing, Chloe https://pinkiebag.com/
No thank you for reading!
This is what i need right now,i going to try this and mastered it perfectly 😎