let your walls down.



  1. the outer layer of something that is hallow; build for protection, security.

Everyone is afraid to get their walls broken down, whether they admit it to themselves or not. People who enter your life may come with a smile, but inside we can never really tell if their intentions are really pure and true so that is what makes it even harder to let them in. This post is to encourage you, whoever YOU are that it is okay for you to let your guards down.
Here is why:

Processed with VSCO with 3 presetEVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.
Just because Harry or Suzy broke your heart does not mean that the next person that comes along will. Do not harden your heart or in other words, do not build your walls so high that no one else can climb over it.

It’s okay to be shy about it. It’s definitely okay to be a little closed off, but not too much to the point where the person feels like they can’t get to know you.

Let the person know what you stand for and what your intentions are. Doing this will make you feel a lot better and it will be that much more liberating!

Moving fast is never the right decision. Get to know what the other person is about and test them to see if they really are what you want.

Don’t let fear overtake your life.
The fear of rejection
The fear of being alone
The fear of failure
The fear of being taken advantage off
The fear of LETTING GO

Choose to be happy. It’s okay to trust someone. Nobody likes to be fully exposed and vulnerable, but taking the step to being self-aware of what you have been through and fully accepting it for what it is helps you move forward. It is always scary stepping out our comfort zones, but you will never know if that person or that thing you want to do will be the best experience of your life until you try. It’s better to know than to stay unknowing. It gets better with TIME. Good Luck. xxx

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47 thoughts on “let your walls down.

  1. I am often accused of building walls around me and shutting down as soon as someone tries to come close. Sigh! the fear of being hurt again is just too much to bear at times.
    Loved your post for it inspires to be brave.
    You are right – I need to take a chance sometime; no gaurantees but then maybe this is the one! No point shutting down opportunities with fear.

  2. I’m fortunate to not struggle with heartbreak and staying closed in with relationships, however with friends and best friends I’ve certainly been hurt in the past and it makes it so hard to make new close friends, I’m just always so frightened it’ll happen again 🙁 however you’re right I should let go and carry on as life moves on and so should I 🙂

    Thanks for such a lovely post, hopefully it’ll lift some people’s spirits xx


  3. This is such an inspiring post, MJ! I totally agree with your point that everyone is different, and that just because somebody has hurt you in the past does not mean that the next person to come along will do the same thing. I have had to learn this myself recently, and although it is sometimes hard to trust new people, some people that you meet are really worth it and restore your faith in others! Thank you for sharing!

    Abbey 💋 http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

  4. Ugh you write SO beautifully! Bookmarking this to send to every friend of mine who goes through a heartbreak – I never know what to say to them but this says it ALL and so perfectly! Lovely read thanks so much for sharing! Looking forward to your next post 🙂 Jess xx

    1. I get it, not everyone is so open. The key is time. Take your time, but just remember to not be so closed off that you shun everyone out. It’s okay to be afraid, but learn to trust yourself!💗💗💗💗 thanks for reading!

  5. This Post is super motivational ! Thanks for much for sharing. I especially love the bit about the fact that everyone is different – it’s so true and I think we all need to remember it sometimes and stop comparing! Great post x

  6. This is soooo relatable! I have definitely changed a bit in the last year or so but I used to shut down and shut everyone out when I was hurt by someone else. However, I am now beginning to let go of some of the past and move on as there is no point in dragging it all along with you.
    Such a good read!!


  7. This is such a lovely post, I think I definitely need to take my time with things in the future and not just rush! xx


  8. These sort of posts are my fave and this was so beautifully written!! And so down to Earth and true, we are all different and this is something that needs to be preached a whole load more!! Great post lovely xo

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